Teachers How Many Overbearing Helicopter Parents do you have

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Anonymous wrote:Knowing who is spending time with our young children is our business.

Sounds like you should homeschool if worrying about a teacher’s time off is a concern to you.

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I don’t care where the teacher is, if the teacher is spending the day helping the admin or whatever. I’d like to know who is with my 4-year-old

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Anonymous wrote:I do wonder if teachers appreciate parents who mostly keep quiet except the rare occasion something important comes up (maybe once or twice a year). Sometimes I feel like we are overlooked and the whole squeaky wheel thing. But still, it’s not my personality to badger teachers and I wouldn’t send my kid to the school if I didn’t trust them to handle most things.

Our school lost that trust pretty quickly. They keep parents in the desk about all the classroom antics, behavior problems, and bullying as well as academic standards or lack thereof. They don’t even disclose substitute teacher days, or weeks, to parents of young children. Then when they do, they look like fools who kept a secret for two weeks of zero transparency.

Lots of secrets a
nd Do Not Contact Us messaging at our private school.

A teacher using pto is none of your business. No communication with you is needed or expected.

Huh?

You school doesn’t email the class if your Elementary aged children has a substitute teacher for 1 or a few days?
That’s so disruptive to young children, parents could really help. Plus if the school or homeroom teacher isn’t organized subs don’t have much to go by, and one standalone day could easily be a total blow off. A week of it too.
Ours does and states who the sub is or who was pulled in to sub. Usually it’s a sr admin or experienced teacher or retired teacher or specials teacher.

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Wait, parents think they should get an email when their kid has a sub? What?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care where the teacher is, if the teacher is spending the day helping the admin or whatever. I’d like to know who is with my 4-year-old

Is there a parental notification requirement in the enrollment contract that you signed?

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Anonymous wrote:The week teacher assignments came out one parent emailed to discuss her child. I agreed to do so but now it’s turned into emails daily if not more than one a day. I typically respond at the end of the day but that is not enough as her employer expects a prompt response from her therefore she expects the same from me. I reminded her that I teach throughout the day and don’t have access to email. She then went as far to request my daily schedule so she could “better time her correspondence to ensure a prompt response.”

I’m not a new teacher so this doesn’t rattle me as it would have 15 years ago. I spoke to the child’s teacher from last year and there was eventually an intervention with the assistant head of school.

Her child has no special needs that have been publicly disclosed so it’s not even related to accommodations, just touching base on how I am supporting learning needs, offering challenges specific to the strengths of her DD, etc. Less than a week of school and my inbox is already full!

Dear Mrs. Smith,

I am so glad that you are so invested in Larla's success in the classroom. I appreciate your desire for prompt and regular communication from me, but unfortunately with 25 students, a full-time teaching schedule and all the administrative duties, I do not have time to have daily communication with every parent. Please continue to send your messages to me and I will review them and respond as my other duties allow. When there is an urgent need, I will communicate with you promptly. Thank you for your understanding.

Mrs. Jones.

Please cut it out with Larla it's annoying

No. Deal with it.

Think it's the same person posting with Larla and agree that it's annoying. We can all do without it.

Welcome to DCUM, PP! Larla has a 11 year history on this site.
The original thread is a beauty. Enjoy! https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/182934.page#1730321

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, parents think they should get an email when their kid has a sub? What?

I agree, it's strange. If the teacher is out for more than a day or two, the school absolutely should communicate but for one day. If you don't trust the school to have background checked subs who can keep your child safe and teach them something, then you really should send your child elsewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, parents think they should get an email when their kid has a sub? What?

Under age 10 students, yes.

After age 10 the students can ID a weak/clueless or strong sub themselves and behave accordingly.

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My kids always have stories about tv time and kids getting sent to the principals office on sub days. The conversations usually starts like that and then we find out the main teacher has been out since last week. This was pre Covid.

It happened during Covid with the 5 days mandatory out, then it’s go on another 5-10 days as well. We should have gotten tutors. Didn’t even bother reading the report card written by a teacher who was even there half the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, parents think they should get an email when their kid has a sub? What?

This parent doesn’t.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care where the teacher is, if the teacher is spending the day helping the admin or whatever. I’d like to know who is with my 4-year-old

Sounds like you don't trust the school where you send your DC to find a safe, reliable person to substitute. This is your issue, not the school's.

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That’s the bar for private school teaching: safe? “Reliable?”

What does reliable mean, will come in to work when called?

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By signing your contract with the school, you've agreed to let them determine at their discretion what kind of staffing and notification is appropriate. If you're having second thoughts about that, feel free not to re-enroll in several months. It's not that complicated.

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Anonymous wrote:The week teacher assignments came out one parent emailed to discuss her child. I agreed to do so but now it’s turned into emails daily if not more than one a day. I typically respond at the end of the day but that is not enough as her employer expects a prompt response from her therefore she expects the same from me. I reminded her that I teach throughout the day and don’t have access to email. She then went as far to request my daily schedule so she could “better time her correspondence to ensure a prompt response.”

I’m not a new teacher so this doesn’t rattle me as it would have 15 years ago. I spoke to the child’s teacher from last year and there was eventually an intervention with the assistant head of school.

Her child has no special needs that have been publicly disclosed so it’s not even related to accommodations, just touching base on how I am supporting learning needs, offering challenges specific to the strengths of her DD, etc. Less than a week of school and my inbox is already full!

Dear Mrs. Smith,

I am so glad that you are so invested in Larla's success in the classroom. I appreciate your desire for prompt and regular communication from me, but unfortunately with 25 students, a full-time teaching schedule and all the administrative duties, I do not have time to have daily communication with every parent. Please continue to send your messages to me and I will review them and respond as my other duties allow. When there is an urgent need, I will communicate with you promptly. Thank you for your understanding.

Mrs. Jones.

Please cut it out with Larla it's annoying

No. Deal with it.

Think it's the same person posting with Larla and agree that it's annoying. We can all do without it.

Are you new here? Larla is a dcum standard.

Seriously. Who are these weirdos? Larla IS DCUM.

+1 do a global search on DCUM for Larla and you will get thousands of hits. It helps prevent people picking a random real name and seeming to "out" or mock a real kid.

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Anonymous wrote:The week teacher assignments came out one parent emailed to discuss her child. I agreed to do so but now it’s turned into emails daily if not more than one a day. I typically respond at the end of the day but that is not enough as her employer expects a prompt response from her therefore she expects the same from me. I reminded her that I teach throughout the day and don’t have access to email. She then went as far to request my daily schedule so she could “better time her correspondence to ensure a prompt response.”

I’m not a new teacher so this doesn’t rattle me as it would have 15 years ago. I spoke to the child’s teacher from last year and there was eventually an intervention with the assistant head of school.

Her child has no special needs that have been publicly disclosed so it’s not even related to accommodations, just touching base on how I am supporting learning needs, offering challenges specific to the strengths of her DD, etc. Less than a week of school and my inbox is already full!

Dear Mrs. Smith,

I am so glad that you are so invested in Larla's success in the classroom. I appreciate your desire for prompt and regular communication from me, but unfortunately with 25 students, a full-time teaching schedule and all the administrative duties, I do not have time to have daily communication with every parent. Please continue to send your messages to me and I will review them and respond as my other duties allow. When there is an urgent need, I will communicate with you promptly. Thank you for your understanding.

Mrs. Jones.

Please cut it out with Larla it's annoying

No. Deal with it.

Think it's the same person posting with Larla and agree that it's annoying. We can all do without it.

Are you new here? Larla is a dcum standard.

Seriously. Who are these weirdos? Larla IS DCUM.

+1 do a global search on DCUM for Larla and you will get thousands of hits. It helps prevent people picking a random real name and seeming to "out" or mock a real kid.

I believe the origin is a baby name thread from years ago. It's a DCUM tradition now.