Quitting Breastfeeding For Selfish Reasons

[Anonymous]

I haven't breastfed at all from day one based on me not wanting to do it. The child is doing well and frankly you can't tell who was breastfed or not based on their progress.

[Anonymous]

i also didn't want to do it. I tried it to make others happy and was miserable. i quit and was so happy when i did.

[Anonymous]

Lunchables are delicious.

[Anonymous]

Do what works for you OP. Honestly, I would have stopped well before I did if formula weren't so expensive. Not the only reason but that was one of the primary reasons for me to keep pumping as long as possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's "selfish" of you to stop if that's what you want to do.
I am surprised though, that you think it will be easier to formula feed, if you've already made in to 4 months and you feel it's going well. I felt like breastfeeding, once established, was easier because I never had to wash a bottle. Never had to go to the store to buy formula. Never had to make up/warm up a bottle in the middle of the night.
It just seems like you already successfully completed the "hard part" of the first several weeks/establishing breastfeeding, why quit now?

OP here. The constant stress of worrying if he’s getting enough, if I’m making enough, if my supply will drop, etc., is not easy. Bottle feeding is easier in the sense that I know how much he is getting and I never have to worry about not making enough. We put the bottles in the dishwasher, order formula online, and he room temp bottles. We have done bottles before bed and a couple of times full days with bottles and he has slept better and ate less often on those days and nights.

It sounds like you have a good thing going with formula and you should just give yourself permission to quit.

I would recommend keeping a little bit of breast milk in the freezer in reserve since it will keep frozen for a while and you may need it later

OP here. I have a large freezer stash that I planned to use up with formula. Why do I need it for later?

Old wives tales about putting breast milk on rashes or styles. Feeding it to the baby if they are sick and you think they would benefit from some extra antibodies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“ I’m not saying the decision to quit BF directly causes Lunchables. But the same underlying factors (selfishness, prioritizing own convenience above child’s, lazy parenting) could drive both. See thread about the DH who prioritized their workout over the safety of their newborn”

You are really an awful person PP. And crazies like you are what give BF supporters a bad name.

If you wouldn't feed them lunchables then why would you give them formula?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“ I’m not saying the decision to quit BF directly causes Lunchables. But the same underlying factors (selfishness, prioritizing own convenience above child’s, lazy parenting) could drive both. See thread about the DH who prioritized their workout over the safety of their newborn”

You are really an awful person PP. And crazies like you are what give BF supporters a bad name.

If you wouldn't feed them lunchables then why would you give them formula?

No one can possibly be this obnoxious IRL.

[Anonymous]

Personally I think stopping breastfeeding because you want to is the best possible reason to stop. If it was because of supply or difficult latch you’d always have to wonder if you did “everything” and that’s annoying. Give your child the gift of a mother who puts her mask on first.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t read the whole thread but wanted to chime in and say I quit much earlier than 4mos bc it was so hard and painful. Lactation consultant and pediatrician totally supportive. My son is 2 and totally awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t read the whole thread but wanted to chime in and say I quit much earlier than 4mos bc it was so hard and painful. Lactation consultant and pediatrician totally supportive. My son is 2 and totally awesome.

Yep same (although wasn't painful; daughter just nursed very slowly so it was very sleep-depriving and stressful). DD is hitting all her milestones early and is thriving.