Quitting Breastfeeding For Selfish Reasons

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Breastfeeding is not easy and I required a lot of support from my family and DH to do it successfully. Thankfully, our family really valued breastfeeding (and mothering), so my comfort was prioritized at home and both DH and I, were able to ease into parenthood fairly quickly. I am sure that this is not the case in many families.

I had all of that AND some. I had a FT nanny, husband and my mom for the first month. Stopped BF at 3 months. It had nothing to do with the help and support. Why would you assume OP does not have that? Do you actually believe BF is somehow superior? Seriously… go away

NP. All else equal, yes breastfeeding is superior.

No it’s not. Breastmilk benefits are wildly overstated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Breastfeeding is not easy and I required a lot of support from my family and DH to do it successfully. Thankfully, our family really valued breastfeeding (and mothering), so my comfort was prioritized at home and both DH and I, were able to ease into parenthood fairly quickly. I am sure that this is not the case in many families.

OP here. I have plenty of family support. My husband took a month paternity leave and doted on me while I learned to breastfeed. My family were all really supportive and I had a ton of family help. My comfort is not my priority and that is why I’m choosing to quit breastfeeding. It’s no longer an enjoyable experience. Formula feeding doesn’t make you less or a mother.

Go ahead and quit, but FYI, a lot of parenting isn’t necessarily enjoyable. Eg engaging with a fractious toddler, packing school lunch every day. Are you just going to quit those? Put the toddler in front of an iPad, buy lunchables every day?

You caught a crazy, OP. This lady is a nut job. Why do you care what a stranger feeds their child? Why do you care what a stranger chooses to do or not do with her breasts? You’re seriously crazy and I fear for your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Breastfeeding is not easy and I required a lot of support from my family and DH to do it successfully. Thankfully, our family really valued breastfeeding (and mothering), so my comfort was prioritized at home and both DH and I, were able to ease into parenthood fairly quickly. I am sure that this is not the case in many families.

OP here. I have plenty of family support. My husband took a month paternity leave and doted on me while I learned to breastfeed. My family were all really supportive and I had a ton of family help. My comfort is not my priority and that is why I’m choosing to quit breastfeeding. It’s no longer an enjoyable experience. Formula feeding doesn’t make you less or a mother.

Go ahead and quit, but FYI, a lot of parenting isn’t necessarily enjoyable. Eg engaging with a fractious toddler, packing school lunch every day. Are you just going to quit those? Put the toddler in front of an iPad, buy lunchables every day?

Equating the above to quitting breastfeeding is the dumbest logic I’ve seen on here yet. You’re really something special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“ I’m not saying the decision to quit BF directly causes Lunchables. But the same underlying factors (selfishness, prioritizing own convenience above child’s, lazy parenting) could drive both. See thread about the DH who prioritized their workout over the safety of their newborn”

You are really an awful person PP. And crazies like you are what give BF supporters a bad name.

She is the type to breastfeed until the kid goes to college and shames others who don’t.

I find it lazy for breastfeeding moms who say washing bottles or buying formula is difficult, but I don’t voice my opinions about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Breastfeeding is not easy and I required a lot of support from my family and DH to do it successfully. Thankfully, our family really valued breastfeeding (and mothering), so my comfort was prioritized at home and both DH and I, were able to ease into parenthood fairly quickly. I am sure that this is not the case in many families.

OP here. I have plenty of family support. My husband took a month paternity leave and doted on me while I learned to breastfeed. My family were all really supportive and I had a ton of family help. My comfort is not my priority and that is why I’m choosing to quit breastfeeding. It’s no longer an enjoyable experience. Formula feeding doesn’t make you less or a mother.

Go ahead and quit, but FYI, a lot of parenting isn’t necessarily enjoyable. Eg engaging with a fractious toddler, packing school lunch every day. Are you just going to quit those? Put the toddler in front of an iPad, buy lunchables every day?

Oh wow. Yep, op, be careful you might ruin everything about your child's life in the future by making the decision to quit. One day it's a bottle, the next it's LUNCHABLES. This is serious, op.

I’m not saying the decision to quit BF directly causes Lunchables. But the same underlying factors (selfishness, prioritizing own convenience above child’s, lazy parenting) could drive both. See thread about the DH who prioritized their workout over the safety of their newborn

OP isn’t feeding her kid poison. Formula is designed for babies and a wonderful nutrition source for the first year. Breastfeeding or formula feeding that first year is such a small amount of time in a persons life span that it’s crazy to think it matters.

OP quitting breastfeeding isn’t selfish. Her baby will benefit from not having a stressed out mom.

It’s nice to know you think people who choose fo formula feed or have to formula feed are lazy and selfish. I’ve had moms force breastfeeding at detriment of their own baby. I’ve had babies with severe with gain issues because mom refused to supplement or switch to formula. Breastfeeding isn’t magical and never will be. I’ve known many breastfeeding babies who were no healthier than their formula fed counterparts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Breastfeeding is not easy and I required a lot of support from my family and DH to do it successfully. Thankfully, our family really valued breastfeeding (and mothering), so my comfort was prioritized at home and both DH and I, were able to ease into parenthood fairly quickly. I am sure that this is not the case in many families.

OP here. I have plenty of family support. My husband took a month paternity leave and doted on me while I learned to breastfeed. My family were all really supportive and I had a ton of family help. My comfort is not my priority and that is why I’m choosing to quit breastfeeding. It’s no longer an enjoyable experience. Formula feeding doesn’t make you less or a mother.

Go ahead and quit, but FYI, a lot of parenting isn’t necessarily enjoyable. Eg engaging with a fractious toddler, packing school lunch every day. Are you just going to quit those? Put the toddler in front of an iPad, buy lunchables every day?

Oh wow. Yep, op, be careful you might ruin everything about your child's life in the future by making the decision to quit. One day it's a bottle, the next it's LUNCHABLES. This is serious, op.

I’m not saying the decision to quit BF directly causes Lunchables. But the same underlying factors (selfishness, prioritizing own convenience above child’s, lazy parenting) could drive both. See thread about the DH who prioritized their workout over the safety of their newborn

You've lost your mind. So now op must remain diligent in breastfeeding because quitting is the same as leaving a baby unattended? Take a step back and listen to yourself. Everyone makes decisions based on a combination of what's best for everyone in the family. I quit breastfeeding at 8 weeks, and at age 10, my son has had maybe 3 Lunchables in his lifetime. Do I sound ridiculous even saying that? Yes, because it's such a stupid thing to worry about.

[Anonymous]

This topic has been beaten to death. Do what you want, kid will be fine!

[Anonymous]

Bunch of defensive formula moms on here. Yes, breastfeeding is better, all else equal. Obviously it isn’t if you’re not producing enough milk (which is not true in OP’s case given her large freezer stash). But if the baby is gaining and the mom is fine, then yes it is better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Breastfeeding is not easy and I required a lot of support from my family and DH to do it successfully. Thankfully, our family really valued breastfeeding (and mothering), so my comfort was prioritized at home and both DH and I, were able to ease into parenthood fairly quickly. I am sure that this is not the case in many families.

OP here. I have plenty of family support. My husband took a month paternity leave and doted on me while I learned to breastfeed. My family were all really supportive and I had a ton of family help. My comfort is not my priority and that is why I’m choosing to quit breastfeeding. It’s no longer an enjoyable experience. Formula feeding doesn’t make you less or a mother.

Go ahead and quit, but FYI, a lot of parenting isn’t necessarily enjoyable. Eg engaging with a fractious toddler, packing school lunch every day. Are you just going to quit those? Put the toddler in front of an iPad, buy lunchables every day?

Whoa, really? Thank god you're here to fill us in.

Don't being the iPad into this. Cocomelon weeps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bunch of defensive formula moms on here. Yes, breastfeeding is better, all else equal. Obviously it isn’t if you’re not producing enough milk (which is not true in OP’s case given her large freezer stash). But if the baby is gaining and the mom is fine, then yes it is better.

It’s been proven breast milk has limited immunity with age. There is also a lot of toxic carcinogens that have been found in breast milk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bunch of defensive formula moms on here. Yes, breastfeeding is better, all else equal. Obviously it isn’t if you’re not producing enough milk (which is not true in OP’s case given her large freezer stash). But if the baby is gaining and the mom is fine, then yes it is better.

No. There is a bunch of crazy breastfeeding idiots on here spouting BS that people are calling out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No baby can do well if their mom is miserable. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish, it's a prerequisite to caring for your kid. Motherhood is a marathon, not a sprint. No need to over-exert yourself early.

You are doing great. I kept pumping for DC1 through 7 mos. I hated every minute of it. I wish I stopped at 3 mos. I honestly think my hatred of pumping/BF'ing made me a less present mom in those early months.

+1. If you think selfish means wanting to your body to yourself, wanting not to worry about supply, wanting not to stress about pumping while working, wanting more sleep at night, wanting to take medication you can’t while breastfeeding, or wanting to reduce stress/anxiety then you aren’t looking at the full picture. Every pregnancy and postpartum experience is different. I’m a mom of 2 and have had vastly different breastfeeding experiences with my kids. My advice is to do you and try to release the guilt. Women experience so much pressure to do everything right- from pregnancy to childbirth to breastfeeding to involvement in their kids’ lives. You will continue to wrestle with how to frame your decisions to yourself and others amd hopefully you won’t be as hard on yourself.

[Anonymous]

I held out for almost a year and felt "selfish" for stopping when I did. But truly the whole thing was incredibly stressful from the get-go and never got easier. My child didn't turn out to be any better than anyone else's as far as I can tell. Do what you want to do and don't feel guilty - seems like everyone wants to tell women what they should and shouldn't do with their breasts. I'm over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Breastfeeding is not easy and I required a lot of support from my family and DH to do it successfully. Thankfully, our family really valued breastfeeding (and mothering), so my comfort was prioritized at home and both DH and I, were able to ease into parenthood fairly quickly. I am sure that this is not the case in many families.

OP here. I have plenty of family support. My husband took a month paternity leave and doted on me while I learned to breastfeed. My family were all really supportive and I had a ton of family help. My comfort is not my priority and that is why I’m choosing to quit breastfeeding. It’s no longer an enjoyable experience. Formula feeding doesn’t make you less or a mother.

Go ahead and quit, but FYI, a lot of parenting isn’t necessarily enjoyable. Eg engaging with a fractious toddler, packing school lunch every day. Are you just going to quit those? Put the toddler in front of an iPad, buy lunchables every day?

Equating the above to quitting breastfeeding is the dumbest logic I’ve seen on here yet. You’re really something special.

LOL, I breastfed for a decent amount of time, but also packed lunchables and gave my kid an ipad. Apparently breastfeeding will not necessarily make you a perfect parent like PP.

[Anonymous]

The mommy martyrs telling OP to suck it up should broaden their perspective. Women in some developed foreign countries would laugh at how obsessed with breastfeeding (wealthy) American moms are. We have an easy alternative; why agonize over using it?