My husband works 16-18 hours per day

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. I saw my mother do this for years and for much less $. When things got tough financially, her employer laid off her friends, many of whom had been busting their butts to make the business successful. That just left more work for those who were left. I am from an area with few job opportunities so there weren't many options. She ended up moving here and making a lot more for the same kind of work. She is much happier. In DC, there are so many good jobs there is no reason to stay. Maybe you can find a job search service that does resume writing and interview coaching for your husband? It will still be work on his part but less daunting than doing it all himself.

[Anonymous]

95k/year
1920 work hours/year
= $49/hour

he's working 16 hours/day so he is really making $24/hour

TOTALLY NOT WORTH IT

[Anonymous]

Job martyrs don't win any awards and aren't heroes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ditto PP who said update his resume for him and take charge of applying to jobs for him. He’s too weighed down, he can’t get out of this by himself- he needs your help.
Act as his personal assistant for a couple weeks and apply to some jobs. And maybe find a couple recruiters in his field that he can connect with to look for positions for him

I would be livid if my spouse did this for me.

not helpful.
so you would rather keep working 18 hour days with no hope and so exhausted you can't fix the situation? what's your solution?

I would continue to manage my own career. If OP has an issue she can bring it up with her spouse, but it's his career, not hers.

There isn’t a clear line between job and family now. So if the career is cutting into her quality of life she should be able to voice some concerns.

Yes voice concerns from a family perspective. Do not update his resume and start applying to positions. I am positive that her husband has his own thoughts on his current position, what he wants to change and how to get there.

I'm the PP who suggested updating the resume. I didn't say apply to jobs...just update the resume to take away that logistical challenge. I proofread my DH's PhD thesis and his first resume. I made a lot of substantive suggestions. I think it's totally bizarre that you'd be "livid" if your spouse helped you out with some writing/editing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:95k/year
1920 work hours/year
= $49/hour

he's working 16 hours/day so he is really making $24/hour

TOTALLY NOT WORTH IT

It is actually probably much less than that because he is probably working additional weekend hours. Also, i should point out that many hourly jobs pay overtime after 40 hours for 1.5 time, for example. This would really be like someone making 17 bucks an hour working tons of overtime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:95k/year
1920 work hours/year
= $49/hour

he's working 16 hours/day so he is really making $24/hour

TOTALLY NOT WORTH IT

It is actually probably much less than that because he is probably working additional weekend hours. Also, i should point out that many hourly jobs pay overtime after 40 hours for 1.5 time, for example. This would really be like someone making 17 bucks an hour working tons of overtime.

It's actually the equivalent of someone making 18/hr working 80 hours a week at regular pay for 40 plus 1.5 time for overtime for the rest.
Or the equivalent of someone making 15-16/hr working 90 hours a week at regular pay for 40 plus 1.5 time for overtime.