My Girlfriend Is Selfish..

[Anonymous]

I know I’m here first boyfriend after a couple of years being single, but I feel that had shaped her selfishness. She is great in many ways, but sometimes will skim over my feelings to talk about her own. She’s great is the fact that she loves and cares about me. She is always thinking about me, texting me when I have something big at work, cooking for me, etc., but I hate that she makes most conversations about her. She is also very selfish in the bedroom. We have sex almost daily, and while it’s great, she focuses more on her pleasure than mine. I will give her oral, and then she’s too tired to return the favor. When I travel and we have phone sex/setting, she will end the conversation once she fulfilled her pleasure. It’s frustrating, and when I bring it up, she says she will change, but never does. I find myself getting upset at her, and contemplate breaking up.

Let’s keep this PG guys. I want actual advice, nothing explicit.

[Anonymous]

Or maybe you’re expecting her to read your mind.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like this isn’t the relationship you want and I doubt it’s going to change. Is it time to break up, OP?

[Anonymous]

So break up with her.

[Anonymous]

Op, be real. You’re just upset that she doesn’t give you
bl*wjobs.

[Anonymous]

She's selfish.

If you don't want to date someone who is selfish, then break up with her. If you do, stay with her.

That isn't a trait that is easily changed.

[Anonymous]

Since you’ve told her about it (hopefully with specific examples) and she hasn’t changed the only other thing to do is break up if this is a dealbreaker for you.

[Anonymous]

Try being more assertive in bed. Next time you are together, say to her, “Me first this time.” She SHOULD be happy to give you a BJ. Her reaction will speak volumes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try being more assertive in bed. Next time you are together, say to her, “Me first this time.” She SHOULD be happy to give you a BJ. Her reaction will speak volumes.

OP here. She goes do it, but not as often as I give her oral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try being more assertive in bed. Next time you are together, say to her, “Me first this time.” She SHOULD be happy to give you a BJ. Her reaction will speak volumes.

OP here. She goes do it, but not as often as I give her oral.

So everything has to be even all the time? God, you sound annoying. And immature.

[Anonymous]

I always get more oral than BF gets BJs. Not b/c I'm selfish. Because it's how I get to the big O. She comes first. That doesn't mean He doesn't come at all, though.

[Anonymous]

Actually she sounds immature and self absorbed, which is a little different..but still an issue. Is she an only child? Or raised very entitled?

Well you can print it out to her and hope she has the capacity to ackny it and change...or break up.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like what it feels like to date a man. HA.

[Anonymous]

How old are you and gf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually she sounds immature and self absorbed, which is a little different..but still an issue. Is she an only child? Or raised very entitled?

Well you can print it out to her and hope she has the capacity to ackny it and change...or break up.

I guess she is...if you only believe one side of the story.