Nephew likes an 18 year old, and he is 26

[Anonymous]

I met the girl and she is nice, and VERY pretty. Like nothing I have ever seen before.
I know that the looks are a huge attraction, and it is not likely that he will find anyone so cute, plus, she does not seem self centered or full of herself. Nephew denies it's the looks, but I think that he is being careful about what he says.
Nephew asked me if he should wait for her to mature, while dating her, for 2-3 more years.
I still think that 21 is too young to get married.
I have suggested that he move on since he wants marriage and family to start by 30. However, some people can get stuck on that one person and never move on.

[Anonymous]

Really hard to tell how both of them will end up in four years. IMO, men don't really mature until around 30, so maybe he won't see her in the same light. Obviously, she is very young and has years before she really matures. But who knows, maybe she is mature now?

IMO, 23 is even too young to marry for most people.

[Anonymous]

She's still a child. Does he really care what you say?

[Anonymous]

Tell him the last person he should ask for dating advice is any female relative.

[Anonymous]

Can he not find someone else his age? Let him make his own choices, it's not your place to decide.

[Anonymous]

Date her til he’s 32 and she’s 24. If they’re still going atrong by then, by all means get married.

Youth is wasted on the young.

[Anonymous]

26/2 + 7 = 20

She's too young, according to The Formula.

He'll have to wait 4 years, when he is 30, and she is 22. Then the Formula will (barely) work (30/2 + 7 = 22).

[Anonymous]

Is she just starting college? Chances are she’ll decide she wants to have fun living the college life and not “settle down” with an older man. Also, if she’s really that pretty, there’s a good chance that she’ll realize she can do better than him once she’s out in the real world.

They’re both very young and will probably change a lot over the next few years. Dating is fine, but I would encourage him not to consider marriage for at least another 5 years.

[Anonymous]

MYOB - let his and her parents deal with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met the girl and she is nice, and VERY pretty. Like nothing I have ever seen before.
I know that the looks are a huge attraction, and it is not likely that he will find anyone so cute, plus, she does not seem self centered or full of herself. Nephew denies it's the looks, but I think that he is being careful about what he says.
Nephew asked me if he should wait for her to mature, while dating her, for 2-3 more years.
I still think that 21 is too young to get married.
I have suggested that he move on since he wants marriage and family to start by 30. However, some people can get stuck on that one person and never move on.

Butt out. Plenty of women marry young and have happy lives. You sound jeous.

[Anonymous]

It's odd that there was no mention of what the woman wants and how she feels. Just all about what the nephew wants. Doesn't her opinion matter at ALL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's odd that there was no mention of what the woman wants and how she feels. Just all about what the nephew wants. Doesn't her opinion matter at ALL?

It doesn't sound like OP has a relationship with her, so maybe she isn't in a position to give advice. But, feel free to jump to the most dramatic Handmaiden's Tail-like conclusion.

[Anonymous]

Perfect age gap relationship. Nephew should hold onto her and propose when she seem open to the idea. Lots will happen between now and them. If they are still together in a few years, they'll probably have a great marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's still a child. Does he really care what you say?

She’s an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's still a child. Does he really care what you say?

You can join the United States military at 18.
18 is not a child but most parents are extending their children’s childhood.