My mom is being manipulative

[Anonymous]

I recently moved back home with my parents. I was getting my BA and lived near campus. Due to financial issues, I had to move back home since I had to take out loans. Last fall I applied to a masters program and got rejected. I’m currently working as a nanny and I haven’t taken another job mainly because all the offers have a lower salary than I currently make. Last night, I got home really late and my mom was upset. One of the reasons that led me to move out was having a 10 pm curfew even though I was 21.
My mom then goes on to tell me that I have to apply to multiple masters program this fall. Or else, I’ll have to start contributing financially.
I don’t mind, but when I asked to move back home she said I didn’t have to pay for anything and try to pay down my loans. The only reason she’s saying I have to apply or else she’ll start asking me for money, is because I said I didn’t want to apply this fall. I told her I would apply next fall. She wants me to do it this fall because she worries I’ll lose my motivation for wanting to go to grad school.
I don’t expect my parents to always be able to help me out, but I feel like she’s being manipulative and trying to get her way.
My undergrad loans left a sour note in my mouth and I would have to take out more loans to get my masters.
I might also not even get it. But, I rather not do it this fall because I’ll only be doing it to please my mom. I want to get a masters degree, but I want to wait another year. It took me 5 years to get my BA and I have mental health issues that I’ve been dealing with as well (I rather focus on trying to work through my issues). 5 years were really long and stressful so I would like to wait.
What would you do in this situation?

[Anonymous]

You sound entitled. Why?

[Anonymous]

If you don’t like her terms, move out.

[Anonymous]

Find a room mate or two and move out.

[Anonymous]

OP is a spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

Become a live in nanny. I’m hiring.

[Anonymous]

What do you contribute to the household? I think it's fair for your mom to ask you to contribute something, but lay off the grad school pressuring. Grad school is far, far different than bachelor's.

If you can't contribute financially, what's your household contribution, otherwise? Do you cook? Clean up? Not just after yourself, but others and common areas?

[Anonymous]

You’re focusing on whether she is being manipulative. Why? Who cares? It’s her house. The bottom line is that you’re not happy at home. Move out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Become a live in nanny. I’m hiring.

Does she sound like a good worker? I don't think so. You'll have major problems with someone like her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you contribute to the household? I think it's fair for your mom to ask you to contribute something, but lay off the grad school pressuring. Grad school is far, far different than bachelor's.

If you can't contribute financially, what's your household contribution, otherwise? Do you cook? Clean up? Not just after yourself, but others and common areas?

Op here. I drive my sister around basically anywhere she needs. I also do everyone’s laundry. I cook dinner almost every night and clean the bathrooms and kitchen every other week,. I can contribute financially. But she brought me back home under false pretenses. I only asked to move back home to save money on rent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Become a live in nanny. I’m hiring.

Does she sound like a good worker? I don't think so. You'll have major problems with someone like her.

Op here how do I sound like a bad worker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you contribute to the household? I think it's fair for your mom to ask you to contribute something, but lay off the grad school pressuring. Grad school is far, far different than bachelor's.

If you can't contribute financially, what's your household contribution, otherwise? Do you cook? Clean up? Not just after yourself, but others and common areas?

Op here. I drive my sister around basically anywhere she needs. I also do everyone’s laundry. I cook dinner almost every night and clean the bathrooms and kitchen every other week,. I can contribute financially. But she brought me back home under false pretenses. I only asked to move back home to save money on rent.

OK, so move out.

[Anonymous]

Your mom's not being manipulative. She's telling you your rent free days are over. If you don't like it, move out. You are an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Become a live in nanny. I’m hiring.

Does she sound like a good worker? I don't think so. You'll have major problems with someone like her.

Meh. My next best option is an au pair. I just need someone to do pick ups, drop offs, and occasionally let the maids in. I just can’t get a 21+ au pair now I’m Trump’s America.

[Anonymous]

Yep, time to move out, OP. Find a way.