If you stayed with your cheating spouse
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Anonymous
| How did you get past the fact that they cheated? |
Anonymous
| You either decide to trust again or not. |
Anonymous
| I tried for a year. Didn’t work. |
Anonymous
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I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.
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Anonymous
You don’t worry about disease? Especially from a man who pays prostitutes? |
Anonymous
| time, empathy, counseling |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
Sadly, this is the mentally of most women that have cheating husbands. Its about the money and prestige. |
Anonymous
Generally accepted that the DH is doesn’t care about OP ( it’s just sex) but when the DW cheats the marriage is over ( because she cares more about AP). |
Anonymous
| Why the double standard? |
Anonymous
Or the IL's money. She is not staying for nothing. "Oh he wants some young thing" should not be an acceptable excuse to "forgive". |
Anonymous
He's gross, but hopefully you're smart enough never to have sex with the creeper again. Have fun, spend the money, but let him catch the diseases. |
Anonymous
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The first month I was suicidal and only the presence of my kids kept me alive.
The next year involved a ton of pain and working on rebuilding trust. Four years later, I don’t think about it all the time any more. I am still sad that my marriage has this huge scar, but I don’t want the upheaval divorce would bring me or the kids. Time does help. |
Anonymous
I know some friends (men) who definitely fell in love with the AP. Not just sex. |
Anonymous
Can you elaborate on the empathy part? How do you feel empathy towards the wayward spouse? |