DH and DW sharing an e-mail address

[Anonymous]

School is in session for my DC and Larlito's mom just gave me her e-mail address:

[e-mail]

It made me think of DCUM

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I hate when couples do that. Maybe in your particular instance both parents want to know about what's going on at their kid's school.

But in general, any time I've known a couple who did this there was always a weird dynamic to their relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I hate when couples do that. Maybe in your particular instance both parents want to know about what's going on at their kid's school.

But in general, any time I've known a couple who did this there was always a weird dynamic to their relationship.

Usually one of them cheated and sharing an email address is one of the conditions of reconciliation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:School is in session for my DC and Larlito's mom just gave me her e-mail address:

[e-mail]

It made me think of DCUM

I have considered setting up one of these and putting forwards to DH and me because for some reason, a lot of schools have to have ONE email address and if they are told to send something to multiple places, the chances of both people receiving whatever it is are slim...

[Anonymous]

We have a common email for school stuff plus individual ones. We send meeting requests to the “house” email to schedule work travel on the google calendar for the shared account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I hate when couples do that. Maybe in your particular instance both parents want to know about what's going on at their kid's school.

But in general, any time I've known a couple who did this there was always a weird dynamic to their relationship.

Usually one of them cheated and sharing an email address is one of the conditions of reconciliation.

Really? My observation is that usually they are old and don't really use email very much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I hate when couples do that. Maybe in your particular instance both parents want to know about what's going on at their kid's school.

But in general, any time I've known a couple who did this there was always a weird dynamic to their relationship.

Having a separate email address for family/kid/school stuff doesn’t mean they don’t each have their own private email accounts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:School is in session for my DC and Larlito's mom just gave me her e-mail address:

[e-mail]

It made me think of DCUM

I think she gave you their "spam" e-mail address because she's just not that into you. She was being polite but isn't really interested in relationship that's anything more than kid-related logistics.

[Anonymous]

My one friend my age did this with her ex; there was cheating involved.

Everyone else I know who does this is old, like 55+

[Anonymous]

We still have a shared email address. It is the same one we got over 25 years go when they charged more for each email account. It is mostly ‘the family’ email, but I am slowly reclaiming it. It is a legacy of us being around so long. I don’t want to change it because it would be a hassle.

[Anonymous]

I think either completely codependent, or one spouse has major, major control issues. Ditto for shared FB accounts.

The trust/cheating argument is null, because it's insanely easy to create another email account.

[Anonymous]

We have a common email address as it was easier to use google calendar that way, as opposed to sending each other invites. We register for most of our online joint accounts that way and it makes things so much easier when we need to pay bills, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a common email for school stuff plus individual ones. We send meeting requests to the “house” email to schedule work travel on the google calendar for the shared account.

+1. It’s like an email version of a home phone number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i work at a hotel and recently a reservation came in for a couple, nancy and bob.

the email with their reservation was "[e-mail]"

nice

Ha. they're probably not married.

[Anonymous]

Weird in general, but maybe it does help avoid default parenting.