DH and DW sharing an e-mail address

[Anonymous]

This is exactly what we need. DH and I were just discussing how he gets some emails and I get others from DCs schools. What an easy solution.

[Anonymous]

DH and I don't share an email, that would be too frustrating, as I don't want to open his stuff, he doesn't want to open mine, no thank you.

But if somebody else DOES want to do that? I don't care. Not my business.

If somebody else wants an email address of both of their names, like [e-mail] -- regardless of who uses the email, him, her, both, the family --- I don't care. Not my business.

Maybe you should just email your friend and stop worrying about it?

[Anonymous]

It's fine. Why so grumpy OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We share an email. It's the one that pops up on our ipad. What the big deal? We had this email since 2000.

No cheating. How ridiculous.

I worry about those who don't share email. Why the secrets?

Let’s not jump off a boat. I find it hard to believe you don’t have your own personal email account in addition to your shared one.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know who does this hands out that email for kid/family related things but retains their own emails for more personal reasons. Its not like that's their only mailed address....its the address they use for kid related stuff//stuff they both need to know about but aren't very close to the person Dh and I started out with a family email when DS started daycare, but he's 5 now and we've pretty much gone back to using our own emails and forwarding things if only one email is signed up.
May go back to the family email as he gets more involved in stuff.

[Anonymous]

This thread is an excellent example of just how awful, judgemental and bitchy DCUM women are. You people really need to get a life.

DW’s personal email address has both our first names in it. We created it back in the Stone Age when we barely knew what email or the internet even was. The address became hers exclusively decades ago and she never bothered to create a new one. Everyone we know knows it’s her email address and not mine.

Why are so many of you so petty and quick to judge?

[Anonymous]

Yes, as others have said, we use a shared family email ([e-mail]) for anything kid-related- that's the address we give medical offices, the school, sports, etc. It's so both of us can access it and is more equitable that way. If we exchange email addresses to plan something for our kids, you're getting the family email address. If we're close friends, then you have my personal email address. Or, you can text me as well.

Nothing sinister. Just an easier way of managing our lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I hate when couples do that. Maybe in your particular instance both parents want to know about what's going on at their kid's school.

But in general, any time I've known a couple who did this there was always a weird dynamic to their relationship.

Having a separate email address for family/kid/school stuff doesn’t mean they don’t each have their own private email accounts.

That is the case with us. [e-mail] is for family stuff, but we each have our own accounts as well.

[Anonymous]

I have an email address. DH has an email address.

We have an email address together. I don't see what the big deal is? It makes signing up for classes and camps easier so we both know what's going on.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is a little stupid to think this is their only email address! It seems pretty obvious the joint is for kid stuff and they each have their own for personal stuff. It's not that hard to figure out.

[Anonymous]

A little stupid? She's just not that into me?

OP here. You guys crack me up. I didn't add any analysis or opinion. It just struck me as DCUMish. I love DCUM, but it's a bit like watching a movie or show when you already know how it ends. And yet, I can't stop watching.

Happy holiday weekend to all.

[Anonymous]

I was thumbing through our school directory and noticed one e-mail that was *name* and *name*happyfamily@.... That one stuck out.

[Anonymous]

I like this idea, would love to use it when the time comes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like this idea, would love to use it when the time comes

Me, too. I organize our family's life and when coordinating with another kids' friends' parents, I often default to emailing the mom, but I also don't feel right about that because I'm making standard gender assumptions. If there was a generic family email for logistics/ birthday invitations, etc. that is a good idea!

If our family had an email like this, my DH would never check it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We share an email. It's the one that pops up on our ipad. What the big deal? We had this email since 2000.

No cheating. How ridiculous.

I worry about those who don't share email. Why the secrets?

Let’s not jump off a boat. I find it hard to believe you don’t have your own personal email account in addition to your shared one.

I don’t.
Why would I need it?
I have no other one. DH just ignores the emails meant for me. He checks our email periodically.

I have that email. Why do I specifically need one that DH can’t see?