Women how do you help your husbands careers?

[Anonymous]

What do you do if anything to support and help him get ahead?

My husband is smart but currently floundering in a 100k job at 30. He has no idea what his next move should be. What can I do to help?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Well first of all, a 100k job at 30 is nowhere near "floundering" so chill.

[Anonymous]

I was about to say I don't do anything to help him, but I'm actually a SAHM and that alone helps him (so he can travel, never has to leave early, never misses work due to sick child, etc.)

[Anonymous]

I drop off his dry cleaning. Thats about it TBH.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. If he asked for help, I certainly would. Once in awhile we nerd out over a spreadsheet one of us did with a new, challenging formula, but it's not helping.

I'm more concerned about working on my own career. If you want more income, why don't you work on making it yourself?

But I think this is a troll.

[Anonymous]

I encourage him when he talks about applying for promotions or lateral moves, and I don't treat him having a six-figure income as a failure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I encourage him when he talks about applying for promotions or lateral moves, and I don't treat him having a six-figure income as a failure.

+1

I certainly try to encourage and support my husband when he applies for a new job/promotion/etc., and given advice about work matters if he asks. But I don't think that someone making $100K, let alone at 30, is "floundering."

[Anonymous]

My spouse was in the Navy and I was darned near Stepford about being a Navy spouse, and I'm hardly the type.

Ex: Became buddy buddy with the Admiral's wife. Attended any function remotely work related. Volunteered first for things. Made sure that people saw us as a charming young couple who they wanted to see succeed.

Now years later, we happen to work at the same organization. I take on more household responsibilities, we talk about goals a lot, and bounce ideas off of each other. I tell him that I'm the safe salary and do rewarding work that pays well, so he can go off and be the risk-taker. I'm highly regarded in the organization, so it just helps to enhance his reputation.

We complement and support each other. Our careers are important to us and our senses of self, so we actively engage to help the other in any way we can.

[Anonymous]

I have his slippers and a glass of scotch waiting for him as he comes home from work.

[Anonymous]

I love him and hug him and call him george.

[Anonymous]

I help him by proofing resumes and cover letters etc. everyone should have a second set of eyes look over it; and I’m that person for him. Editing was my minor, so he rolls with every change I suggest!

Overall just general advice and cheering up when he asks for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love him and hug him and call him george.

loved that snowman!!!

[Anonymous]

lots of hot sex, seriously.

[Anonymous]

I earn about double what he does and have an easy stable job. I help him role play to prep for interviews and I talk through the pros and cons of promotions or details he plans to apply for. I don’t complain when he works late. I paid my dues in my 20s when I didn’t have kids or many responsibilities. He did a PhD and several post-docs and fellowships and started his “real career” later than I did. I try to view this time in his career as paying dues - I don’t think he ate dinner with us or got home before our older son was asleep until he was 2. He supported me emotionally when I was working long hours and traveling, so I try to extend the same to him.