Why will a husband who detests you not leave

[Anonymous]

Why would they be waiting for you to leave? He hates the house, which is a rental house. So it is not the house.

[Anonymous]

Kids and money. He could lose 100% of his kids and 50% of his money. Simple math!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids and money. He could lose 100% of his kids and 50% of his money. Simple math!

He may also be a masochist and enjoy pain.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, but in the same situation. I think my DH has such poor organizational management skills he's waiting for me to do all the work of separating our lives. I do everything now, so this is par for our marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids and money. He could lose 100% of his kids and 50% of his money. Simple math!

He may also be a masochist and enjoy pain.

Nope, a sadists who enjoys tormenting you. He will leave when you no longer give a damn.

[Anonymous]

Inertia. Laziness. It's a lot of work to find a place and pack up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids and money. He could lose 100% of his kids and 50% of his money. Simple math!

Remind us why would he lose 100% of his kids?

[Anonymous]

Because he knows your vulnerable areas and is enjoying pushing your buttons.

He sounds evil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids and money. He could lose 100% of his kids and 50% of his money. Simple math!

Remind us why would he lose 100% of his kids?

Because that is how the courts work. If Mom refuses visitation there are few consequences except by the rare judge to change custody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would they be waiting for you to leave? He hates the house, which is a rental house. So it is not the house.

You want to separate, you leave.

[Anonymous]

Same here. Ex kept insisting he had integrity, he made a vow and was not going to break it. Which forced me to be the one to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inertia. Laziness. It's a lot of work to find a place and pack up.

Plus...he's probably already getting the sex he lacks from you--his AP. You've helped him make it totally worth it to stay! LOL

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn’t want to take any responsibility for the consequences of divorce. If in the future the kids will be resentful or struggling psychologically and financially he could always say ‘your mother wanted this divorce’.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids and money. He could lose 100% of his kids and 50% of his money. Simple math!

Remind us why would he lose 100% of his kids?

Because that is how the courts work. If Mom refuses visitation there are few consequences except by the rare judge to change custody.

Lawyer here. That's false. Many jurisdictions - including DC and MD have a presumption of joint custody.

This is the case even if prior to the divorce one spouse handled most or all child- related responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids and money. He could lose 100% of his kids and 50% of his money. Simple math!

Remind us why would he lose 100% of his kids?

Because that is how the courts work. If Mom refuses visitation there are few consequences except by the rare judge to change custody.

Lawyer here. That's false. Many jurisdictions - including DC and MD have a presumption of joint custody.

This is the case even if prior to the divorce one spouse handled most or all child- related responsibilities.

NP. Theory and practice. Minimal consequences for not adhering to the custody agreement.