Comments on daycare teacher

[Anonymous]

I pay over $2k/month for a daycare, and it is overall a good, reputable daycare with teachers have awesome educational background. I am curious if it is normal that daycare teachers often complaint & ask me how to handle my 2 year old DD when she does this or that, such as she throw toys around, such as she does not sit at circle time etc? I tell them I don't know because I have been trying to work on that too. I thought even they are young (young or mid-20s), but they are teachers with childhood education/psychology/special education degree educational background, isn't it they should know it better than I do. And, sometimes, I ask them about what I should do when DD does that at home (potty problem, brush teeth etc), they don't have any good advice. Everyone tells me that young daycare teachers are energetic/fun, but I am suspicious that some of them may lack experiences at handling kids with different types of personalities. I do admit that my DD is not a typical well-behaved kid, but she gets along with other kids/does not cry/does not causes big troubles. Do I expect too much from daycare teachers? Before I enroll at daycare, I thought that daycare teachers could be my potential advisors on problems that I encounter when taking care/dealing with DD at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I pay over $2k/month for a daycare, and it is overall a good, reputable daycare with teachers have awesome educational background. I am curious if it is normal that daycare teachers often complaint & ask me how to handle my 2 year old DD when she does this or that, such as she throw toys around, such as she does not sit at circle time etc? I tell them I don't know because I have been trying to work on that too. I thought even they are young (young or mid-20s), but they are teachers with childhood education/psychology/special education degree educational background, isn't it they should know it better than I do. And, sometimes, I ask them about what I should do when DD does that at home (potty problem, brush teeth etc), they don't have any good advice. Everyone tells me that young daycare teachers are energetic/fun, but I am suspicious that some of them may lack experiences at handling kids with different types of personalities. I do admit that my DD is not a typical well-behaved kid, but she gets along with other kids/does not cry/does not causes big troubles. Do I expect too much from daycare teachers? Before I enroll at daycare, I thought that daycare teachers could be my potential advisors on problems that I encounter when taking care/dealing with DD at home.

It sounds like your child is new to their care AND poorly behaved. They are probably trying to understand how her behavior is handled at home.

It also sounds like English is not your first language. Are you communicating with them in English? Is English their first language?

It sounds to me like you need to have a more formal conversation about your daughter's behavior at daycare and at home and how to manage it appropriately. Included in this conversation should be the teachers, the director, and your partner, if you have one.

[Anonymous]

Wowwwwwwwww.

Someone else is supposed to be better at educating, disciplining, and working with your child than YOU ARE? His mother?!

I pay for excellent daycare as well. I have a 2.5yo and a 4.5yo in daycare, and both have been at the same center since they were a few months old.

I talk about everything with the teachers. From transitioning from breast to bottle, to reading progress, to potty training, we talk about it all. They do have good advice and strategies to try, but they don't have all the information or perfect strategies for *MY KIDS,* because every child is different. What worked for little Mikey might not work for little Joshua.

Your teachers need to know what does and doesn't work well for *your child.* You don't have to have all the answers, but they don't, either. You need to work as a team to compare notes, discuss what has and hasn't worked so far, and discuss what to try next.

That being said, my children are very well-behaved, so I don't have a lot of insight into challenging behavior. But both my girls do have little friends who are "that kid" in their classrooms. And I see the parents and teachers talking to each other *DAILY* about what's going on, and I often see parents of the challenging kids talking with the director in her office.

Communication is key. No one is more responsible than YOU and your husband for coming up with possible strategies and solutions. Take some classes, read some books, and keep those lines of communication open.

[Anonymous]

Also FWIW, daycare workers are not paid particularly well. Even if your monthly fee went directly to the daycare worker in question, that is still only $24,000 before taxes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pay over $2k/month for a daycare, and it is overall a good, reputable daycare with teachers have awesome educational background. I am curious if it is normal that daycare teachers often complaint & ask me how to handle my 2 year old DD when she does this or that, such as she throw toys around, such as she does not sit at circle time etc? I tell them I don't know because I have been trying to work on that too. I thought even they are young (young or mid-20s), but they are teachers with childhood education/psychology/special education degree educational background, isn't it they should know it better than I do. And, sometimes, I ask them about what I should do when DD does that at home (potty problem, brush teeth etc), they don't have any good advice. Everyone tells me that young daycare teachers are energetic/fun, but I am suspicious that some of them may lack experiences at handling kids with different types of personalities. I do admit that my DD is not a typical well-behaved kid, but she gets along with other kids/does not cry/does not causes big troubles. Do I expect too much from daycare teachers? Before I enroll at daycare, I thought that daycare teachers could be my potential advisors on problems that I encounter when taking care/dealing with DD at home.

It sounds like your child is new to their care AND poorly behaved. They are probably trying to understand how her behavior is handled at home.

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[Anonymous]

Why would you believe a daycare provider has a college degree? I don’t believe it is a requirement. Sadly there pay is so low, they wouldn’t be able to pay back their student loans in that position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pay over $2k/month for a daycare, and it is overall a good, reputable daycare with teachers have awesome educational background. I am curious if it is normal that daycare teachers often complaint & ask me how to handle my 2 year old DD when she does this or that, such as she throw toys around, such as she does not sit at circle time etc? I tell them I don't know because I have been trying to work on that too. I thought even they are young (young or mid-20s), but they are teachers with childhood education/psychology/special education degree educational background, isn't it they should know it better than I do. And, sometimes, I ask them about what I should do when DD does that at home (potty problem, brush teeth etc), they don't have any good advice. Everyone tells me that young daycare teachers are energetic/fun, but I am suspicious that some of them may lack experiences at handling kids with different types of personalities. I do admit that my DD is not a typical well-behaved kid, but she gets along with other kids/does not cry/does not causes big troubles. Do I expect too much from daycare teachers? Before I enroll at daycare, I thought that daycare teachers could be my potential advisors on problems that I encounter when taking care/dealing with DD at home.

It sounds like your child is new to their care AND poorly behaved. They are probably trying to understand how her behavior is handled at home.

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Yup. They are not complaining--they're trying to figure out what goes on a home and what you have tried so they know what works or doesn't for her.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like they are trying to be good partners and you are looking for scapegoats.

[Anonymous]

I agree with PPs. I know it isn't easy to hear about your kid acting out (I have a 22 month old in daycare and have been there), but they are reaching out because they are trying to be good partners. They are doing their job and you need to participate in that process. You should set up a meeting with the teachers and maybe the director to talk about a unified strategy.

My daughter has had periodic issues (not napping well when she was an infant and a 2-3 month period when she didn't want to play with others) and we always discussed those issues with her teachers to come up with a plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you believe a daycare provider has a college degree? I don’t believe it is a requirement. Sadly there pay is so low, they wouldn’t be able to pay back their student loans in that position.

wtf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you believe a daycare provider has a college degree? I don’t believe it is a requirement. Sadly there pay is so low, they wouldn’t be able to pay back their student loans in that position.

wtf

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with PPs. I know it isn't easy to hear about your kid acting out (I have a 22 month old in daycare and have been there), but they are reaching out because they are trying to be good partners. They are doing their job and you need to participate in that process. You should set up a meeting with the teachers and maybe the director to talk about a unified strategy.

My daughter has had periodic issues (not napping well when she was an infant and a 2-3 month period when she didn't want to play with others) and we always discussed those issues with her teachers to come up with a plan.

Totally agree. I always give the daycare a heads up when we’re seeing new behavior at home so that know to keep an eye out and that we’re working on it. They do the same for us.

I already feel like I’m disconnected from this whole other life my daughter has at daycare that I have nothing to do with. I don’t want to be completely in the dark with what she’s doing and experiencing there. I’m glad they keep me in the loop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with PPs. I know it isn't easy to hear about your kid acting out (I have a 22 month old in daycare and have been there), but they are reaching out because they are trying to be good partners. They are doing their job and you need to participate in that process. You should set up a meeting with the teachers and maybe the director to talk about a unified strategy.

My daughter has had periodic issues (not napping well when she was an infant and a 2-3 month period when she didn't want to play with others) and we always discussed those issues with her teachers to come up with a plan.

This. They aren't asking you how to handle it, they are trying to figure out how you handle the behavior at home because they want to find something that works and would prefer that it be consistent. They also want you to be aware of your child's behavior issues at school.

If my kid was having an issue, I would talk to the staff so that we could all be on the same page in terms of how to address it. Sometimes I could tell them what we did at home that was effective, sometimes I followed their lead, because they had come up with a good strategy.