How to break up?

[Anonymous]

Please share your break up tips. I don’t date guys past a few dates normally.

Been through two break ups in the past (long relationships) - one cheated on me so that was easy to end. The other broke up with me.

Been with current BF for 8months and just don’t think we are a good fit. It is multiple small things plus some larger issues. But, he isn’t a bag person.

[Anonymous]

Do you think that perhaps you have certain emotional issues that prevent you from sustaining a relationship long-term?

Or is this current boyfriend really a poor match??!

I would just tell him directly, in person how you feel.
Keep it short + sweet, and stay on topic the entire time.

Do not leave any chance for possibly changing your mind.
Let him know that you won’t be.

Then wish him only the best.
If he wants to be “friends,” let him know that won’t be a good idea going forward.
You both need to heal + move on from this relationship.

Perhaps one day in the future, but that will happen if it is meant to.

[Anonymous]

"I don't want to date you anymore. I will mail you back your stuff."

That is how I broke up with my abusive boyfriend when I was a freshman in college.

[Anonymous]

It's not you, it's me

[Anonymous]

Ghosts

[Anonymous]

Start dating other people...you can just keep him around till you find something better.

[Anonymous]

In person, someplace public. Get it over with quickly.

[Anonymous]

There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.

[Anonymous]

"We need to talk"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I don't want to date you anymore. I will mail you back your stuff."

That is how I broke up with my abusive boyfriend when I was a freshman in college.

This is fine for an abusive partner. But OP said her bf wasn’t a bad person. I think a good person could be given a bit more explanation and a kinder opening. When I broke up with the last guy I dated before my second marriage, he was too distraught. I told him that I would sit down face to face and talk about my decision and his feelings in two weeks if he still wanted to. Meanwhile I was going to unfollow and block him. After two weeks, I unblocked him. We had coffee and he was much more in control of himself. We’re actually casual friends today because he had two weeks to pull himself together, but knew he could seek closure.

[Anonymous]

How did the person who broke up with you do it?

Just be honest and kind.

[Anonymous]

No need to be coy, Roy.

[Anonymous]

Use the ever-popular "I'm a lesbian" line.
Once you get past the pleas for a threesome it tends to go over smoothly.

[Anonymous]

just say, "I'm a size queen and you're just not equipped to give me what I need"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In person, someplace public. Get it over with quickly.

+1

Choose a neutral place (not your house of his house or a place you normally go together). Be direct and do not touch him. No hugs, nada.

It's not fun but you gotta do what you gotta do.

Signed, a man.