S/o “opening the marriage”

[Anonymous]

There’s a claim that if a DW doesn’t have sex with her DH, she has opened the marriage to him having sex with other women. It’s been compared to the DW eating out if the DW refuses to cook. I’m curious if that outsourcing applies to everything. Specifically:

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

[Anonymous]

D.C. is a large metropolitan area. I heard there's this invention called the internet, and it's world wide. I also heard there is transportation, such as cars, trains, and airplanes.

Get a divorce.

Meet a compatible partner.

Life isn't that complicated.

You're looking for claims and rules and theories and proofs and formulas.

The more people you go out with, the more likely you will find the compatible partner for you.

[Anonymous]

Unless she’s gonna throw the baby away after the birth I’d say there’s the small issue of who’s gonna be the guy that rarely sees the kid and complain about not having “me” time? She’ll have to hire sperm man to come over right at bath time and go storming off to the den to play on his phone. Awkward!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless she’s gonna throw the baby away after the birth I’d say there’s the small issue of who’s gonna be the guy that rarely sees the kid and complain about not having “me” time? She’ll have to hire sperm man to come over right at bath time and go storming off to the den to play on his phone. Awkward!

Lol!

The DH should be grateful she can outsource that as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:D.C. is a large metropolitan area. I heard there's this invention called the internet, and it's world wide. I also heard there is transportation, such as cars, trains, and airplanes.

Get a divorce.

Meet a compatible partner.

Life isn't that complicated.

You're looking for claims and rules and theories and proofs and formulas.

The more people you go out with, the more likely you will find the compatible partner for you.

You have no sense of humor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a claim that if a DW doesn’t have sex with her DH, she has opened the marriage to him having sex with other women. It’s been compared to the DW eating out if the DW refuses to cook. I’m curious if that outsourcing applies to everything. Specifically:

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

Wouldn't it make more sense for the DW to just have sex with the DH, and she gets pregnant that way?

DW doesn't want to have sex.

DH doesn't want to have a baby.

DW wants to use a turkey baster to make herself pregnant?

[taketothebank]

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

If she is cute, I am sure she could get it for free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a claim that if a DW doesn’t have sex with her DH, she has opened the marriage to him having sex with other women. It’s been compared to the DW eating out if the DW refuses to cook. I’m curious if that outsourcing applies to everything. Specifically:

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

Wouldn't it make more sense for the DW to just have sex with the DH, and she gets pregnant that way?

DW doesn't want to have sex.

DH doesn't want to have a baby.

DW wants to use a turkey baster to make herself pregnant?

Hypothetically, they’re having lots of sex. He just doesn’t want to have a baby. Since DCUM offers lots of evidence that a man can coexist in a house with children without contributing at all to their rearing, why should the DW deprive herself? She can just order the baby juice online and do 100% of the parenting. Win-win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a claim that if a DW doesn’t have sex with her DH, she has opened the marriage to him having sex with other women. It’s been compared to the DW eating out if the DW refuses to cook. I’m curious if that outsourcing applies to everything. Specifically:

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

Wouldn't it make more sense for the DW to just have sex with the DH, and she gets pregnant that way?

DW doesn't want to have sex.

DH doesn't want to have a baby.

DW wants to use a turkey baster to make herself pregnant?

Hypothetically, they’re having lots of sex. He just doesn’t want to have a baby. Since DCUM offers lots of evidence that a man can coexist in a house with children without contributing at all to their rearing, why should the DW deprive herself? She can just order the baby juice online and do 100% of the parenting. Win-win.

So do it and stop talking BS. Single moms by choice do it. Or are you here just to talk BS and complain about your husband. Put your big girl pantises on and go after what you want. Why are you waiting to be validated by a bunch of men on an online forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a claim that if a DW doesn’t have sex with her DH, she has opened the marriage to him having sex with other women. It’s been compared to the DW eating out if the DW refuses to cook. I’m curious if that outsourcing applies to everything. Specifically:

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

Wouldn't it make more sense for the DW to just have sex with the DH, and she gets pregnant that way?

DW doesn't want to have sex.

DH doesn't want to have a baby.

DW wants to use a turkey baster to make herself pregnant?

Hypothetically, they’re having lots of sex. He just doesn’t want to have a baby. Since DCUM offers lots of evidence that a man can coexist in a house with children without contributing at all to their rearing, why should the DW deprive herself? She can just order the baby juice online and do 100% of the parenting. Win-win.

So do it and stop talking BS. Single moms by choice do it. Or are you here just to talk BS and complain about your husband. Put your big girl pantises on and go after what you want. Why are you waiting to be validated by a bunch of men on an online forum.

Again, no sense of humor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a claim that if a DW doesn’t have sex with her DH, she has opened the marriage to him having sex with other women. It’s been compared to the DW eating out if the DW refuses to cook. I’m curious if that outsourcing applies to everything. Specifically:

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

In general, yes I do believe that if a spouse is not holding up their end of a relationship in some important matter, the other side is free to go meet that need elsewhere. A sexless DW has chosen not to participate in the sex life of her spouse, and loses any right to "vote" when he does that elsewhere.

Your example of a sperm donor is not equivalent because the DH would be (legally/financially) considered the "father". That is not something you can force upon your spouse: the cost to raise a child is several hundred thousand dollars. In the case of a no-sex open marriage, DH going elsewhere has no negative implications for DW: she's not getting sex she never wanted anyway so there is zero cost to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a claim that if a DW doesn’t have sex with her DH, she has opened the marriage to him having sex with other women. It’s been compared to the DW eating out if the DW refuses to cook. I’m curious if that outsourcing applies to everything. Specifically:

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

In general, yes I do believe that if a spouse is not holding up their end of a relationship in some important matter, the other side is free to go meet that need elsewhere. A sexless DW has chosen not to participate in the sex life of her spouse, and loses any right to "vote" when he does that elsewhere.

Your example of a sperm donor is not equivalent because the DH would be (legally/financially) considered the "father". That is not something you can force upon your spouse: the cost to raise a child is several hundred thousand dollars. In the case of a no-sex open marriage, DH going elsewhere has no negative implications for DW: she's not getting sex she never wanted anyway so there is zero cost to her.

His time, energy, and probably financial resources are going elsewhere so that’s a cost to her and any kids they might have.

And not every state presumes the DH is the father. Plus, DCUM shows that the courts are very lax in enforcing paternal financial responsibilities. If she can afford the child without DH’s income, why not have one?

[Anonymous]

The DW could agree to have sex with the DH on the condition that it be unprotected. It would be like Sophie’s Choice, choosing between sex and being child free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a claim that if a DW doesn’t have sex with her DH, she has opened the marriage to him having sex with other women. It’s been compared to the DW eating out if the DW refuses to cook. I’m curious if that outsourcing applies to everything. Specifically:

If the DH decides he doesn’t want to have a baby, shouldn’t the DW just purchase some sperm from a donor and meet her needs that way?

Er, who has claimed this? There’s just one demented guy on these threads that touts this theory; it’s far from accepted widely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The DW could agree to have sex with the DH on the condition that it be unprotected. It would be like Sophie’s Choice, choosing between sex and being child free.

That’s a good compromise actually.