My Girlfriend is Boring.

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend of six months is a homebody. I’m a homebody at times, but definitely like to go out. She prefer to stay in most of the time, and doesn’t drink. The sex is amazing, and very frequent ( multiple times a day). She always tells me she would rather stay in and have sex, then go out and drink. We do go to dinner often, but she’s not up for bars. I like her - she’s cute, funny, educated, etc., but I find myself seeking more excitement. I want someone who is more of an extrovert. The sex is the best I’ve had, but not sure if that is enough to keep me interested longterm.

[Anonymous]

Your girlfriend is great except she doesn’t like to go to bars and get drunk.

Dude, you have a drinking problem.

[Anonymous]

Congrats, OP. You finally found the right forum after dragging this sad little thread through the nanny forum!

[Anonymous]

Let me guess, you’re what, 22?

[Anonymous]

OP here. It’s not about just going to a bar. It’s that we hardly go anywhere but to dinner. She doesn’t like large crowds ( no concerts, parties, bars, etc.). We pretty much just stay in.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you aren’t socially compatible. If you aren’t happy 6 months in it’s going to be a long slog.

[Anonymous]

Key question to your happiness and hers, as well as your future together:

Does she mind if you go out to bars with friends, have a great time and then come home after and play "wakey, wakey"?

[Anonymous]

Good sex cannot sustain this relationship long-term if you are both so different in your lifestyle tastes.

Eventually this slow burn will meet its eventual demise.

Some people do not like large crowds of people.
Your girlfriend may have Aspergers or just not like to socialize much.

You do not mention your ages, but if in your 20’s then your girlfriend is a little unusual.
People usually do not like staying home so often when they are young.

[Anonymous]

Do her a favor and dump her. You sound like a pathetic SOB. She sounds like a nice girl

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do her a favor and dump her. You sound like a pathetic SOB. She sounds like a nice girl

Wow this is harsh! This forum really beats you up sometimes...it makes people not even want to post for fear of being attacked. Geez!

OP I understand what you’re saying. No the sex won’t sustain you and you really don’t sound socially compatible. I think I’m the long run you will resent going out all the time to events without her. She sounds like an introvert and while you can compromise and people often do - for YOU especially when very young you may not want to and end up resentful. You can certainly talk to her though about it - using the word boring is a bit insulting though so I’d frame it in a way of simply wanting to spend time together doing activities and see if there is common ground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do her a favor and dump her. You sound like a pathetic SOB. She sounds like a nice girl

Yup. Find a trashy trailer park girl with issues and get on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Long term she is likely to lose interest in sex. Then what will you have? You aren’t compatible. I dated men that needed a lot of hand holding socially and it was exhausting and I just stopped bothering to go out or maintain some friendships. Luckily I did not marry any of those guys. Let this thing run its course but don’t marry her.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand people coming on here and complaining about girlfriends and boyfriends. You’re dating. If it’s not the relationship you want, break up. There’s nothing making you stay with someone who doesn’t make you happy except you not wanting to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Have you suggested activities that don't include crowds and loud noise?
I am probably a lot older than you but I am like your girlfriend. I enjoy going for hikes on the weekend though, kayaking on occasion, visiting different areas including wineries, walk around Annapolis, stuff like that.
If you really like here and can see a future with her you need to be open to different things that are outside the house.
Go to bars if you want to, but go with a friend.
My spouse likes to go to casinos a couple of times a month, totally fine with me, I hate casinos but she is happy to go by herself so its a win win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congrats, OP. You finally found the right forum after dragging this sad little thread through the nanny forum!

Interesting! Say more about this. Can you provide a link? Love to see how others responded to this nonsense.