My Girlfriend is Boring.

[Anonymous]

Don't overthink this. Like all couples, you two have common interest (sex) and different interest (going to bar vs stay home watch TV and have sex). So, spend time with her doing your mutual thing and go out to bar/club with friend(s).

You might find an extrovert girl with common hobbies, but you will miss out on some of the qualities of your current girlfriend, i.e., sex is not as great, unfunny...

Or enjoy all the great sex while you can, and then move on. I'm sure she can find someone who appreciates her qualities (in bed).

[Anonymous]

Bored people are boring.

[Anonymous]

He's going to outgrow the drinking/hanging out in bars thing. His friends will start to marry and hanging out in bars becomes less desirable. Everyone makes the transition from seeing the bar that's wall to wall people with a line waiting to get in and wanting to go to that place to hating the crowded bar and saying, let's get out of here and go someplace where we can have a restaurant.

It's called maturing. It usually happens later for men that women.

[Anonymous]

ALot of lame people with lame marriages on here. While OP might have used a bad example by citing bars, obviously the bigger point is that his girlfriend likes to do things one on one, either at home or at a restaurant. That's pretty non compatible with a lot of people, and a lot of people would find that very boring. I've been with DH with 20 years, we both have highly successful careers and are very happy in our marriage. We both have always liked to have a couple drinks, go to bars, concerts, happy hours, parties etc. Neither of us have anything remotely bordering on a drinking problem. But we have always enjoyed getting out together from just the cocoon of our own home. We had to move a couple years ago for one of our jobs, and we've been so busy in the new city with kids and jobs that we've barely had time to meet anyone, and both DH and I agree it has been challenging for our happiness and relationship -- because even 20 years in, with kids, we like to go out and interact with things and people outside our home. Often that means with a drink in hand. This experience makes me appreciate what OP is talking about -- that staying in, every night, with your SO can feel very boring.

OP, you aren't compatible so time to move on once your boredom starts to outweigh the enjoyment of sex.

[Anonymous]

She isn’t a bad person, just not right for you. Move on.

[Anonymous]

I need an age

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend of six months is a homebody. I’m a homebody at times, but definitely like to go out. She prefer to stay in most of the time, and doesn’t drink. The sex is amazing, and very frequent ( multiple times a day). She always tells me she would rather stay in and have sex, then go out and drink. We do go to dinner often, but she’s not up for bars. I like her - she’s cute, funny, educated, etc., but I find myself seeking more excitement. I want someone who is more of an extrovert. The sex is the best I’ve had, but not sure if that is enough to keep me interested longterm.

If only the genders were reversed...you would get so much support! Unfortunately you are a male and therefore always wrong. It’s a female privilege thing. So stop sharing your feelings(that is for women only), man up(do not look for support only female get that) and ghost her. Remember if you make a lot of money, women will flock to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need an age

OP here. We are both 29.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t sound like she’s a boring person, but that you are incompatible in certain key ways, at least at this stage of life. Calling her boring is a bit unkind and reflects that your feelings don’t run deep. There’s nothing wrong with her; you just have different interests, despite being sexually compatible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ALot of lame people with lame marriages on here. While OP might have used a bad example by citing bars, obviously the bigger point is that his girlfriend likes to do things one on one, either at home or at a restaurant. That's pretty non compatible with a lot of people, and a lot of people would find that very boring. I've been with DH with 20 years, we both have highly successful careers and are very happy in our marriage. We both have always liked to have a couple drinks, go to bars, concerts, happy hours, parties etc. Neither of us have anything remotely bordering on a drinking problem. But we have always enjoyed getting out together from just the cocoon of our own home. We had to move a couple years ago for one of our jobs, and we've been so busy in the new city with kids and jobs that we've barely had time to meet anyone, and both DH and I agree it has been challenging for our happiness and relationship -- because even 20 years in, with kids, we like to go out and interact with things and people outside our home. Often that means with a drink in hand. This experience makes me appreciate what OP is talking about -- that staying in, every night, with your SO can feel very boring.

OP, you aren't compatible so time to move on once your boredom starts to outweigh the enjoyment of sex.

I agree with all of this. You just aren't compatible. I'm in my 30s, my partner is his 40s, and we go out all the time. I can't remember the last time we spent a Saturday night on the couch watching TV. We both love to socialize with friends, go to concerts, check out new restaurants, and yes, hit up some bars. I would be very bored if I had to stay on all the time. I don't think it's a male vs female thing either. More a personality difference. Sounds like you would be happier with someone more extroverted, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t sound like she’s a boring person, but that you are incompatible in certain key ways, at least at this stage of life. Calling her boring is a bit unkind and reflects that your feelings don’t run deep. There’s nothing wrong with her; you just have different interests, despite being sexually compatible.

+1 I don't think people are calling OP a jerk because he's a man, but because he didn't list anything actually wrong with his girlfriend except she doesn't like drinking in bars, and jumped from that to calling her names. They are incompatible, yes. But he's also a jerk.

[Anonymous]

It is possible for two people to not have compatible personalities without it being due to some fatal flaw in one person. That you couldn't manage to post about this issue without overtly insulting your girlfriend suggests you're not remotely mature enough for a grown-up relationship. Break up with her so she stops wasting time on your sorry ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do her a favor and dump her. You sound like a pathetic SOB. She sounds like a nice girl

Yup. Find a trashy trailer park girl with issues and get on with your life.

Interesting how according to you the ONLY options of women are homebodies who don’t want to leave the house or a trashy trailer park girl.

[Anonymous]

You need to tell her the truth and amicably part ways. I am like your girlfriend and she is not going to change. Introverts like us are wonderful one-on-one or with small gatherings of friends or colleagues, but we do not feel comfortable going out to bars or to large, noisy events. We like to be home a lot to recharge. She needs to find someone who appreciates her quiet, funny, and sexy self.

[Anonymous]

Eh, at 29 I was still going out to bars until 4 (NYC) but if we did it on a Friday we usually stayed in on Saturday night. Fast forward a few years and staying out until 11 is a big deal. We are now in our 40s but both still like to go out occasionally. I think you just have different personality types. Do you have nights where you can go out with your friends? If so, do you still crave going out with her?