How long to wait before asking a new widow out?
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Anonymous
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She's in her mid 30s and lost DH unexpectedly. I never met him so don't feel guilty about approaching her but absolutely do not want to jump the gun.
If and when she's ready and willing I would think she would signal as much, but what is an appropriate amount of time to wait? |
Anonymous
| Oh my god OP. If you have to ask, you have no business dating a new widow. |
Anonymous
| 1 year |
Anonymous
| This reminds me of the scene in Wedding Crashers where Will Farrell and Owen Wilson try to pick up women at a funeral. |
Anonymous
| Wait til after the burial. Anything sooner would be tacky. |
Anonymous
| 2 years. 1 year seems pretty recent. 2 you probably have somewhat of a new norm and are exploring the future at least in your head. |
Anonymous
| 6-8 months, but everyone grieves differently. she could be quite lonely and want the companionship |
Anonymous
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Does she have kids?
Wait at least one year so her kids can get through all the major holidays with their dad missing. |
Anonymous
He wasn't in Wedding Crashers, and I don't believe there were any funeral scenes in that movie. Owen and Vince Vaughan picked up women at weddings. That they crashed. I bet you think Mean Girls was a movie about nice boys, right? 
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Anonymous
| I was ready to date after almost two years. I waited another year because I didn't think my kids were ready. |
Anonymous
No kids, but that's thoughtful of you. Thanks for posting. |
Anonymous
Thanks for the chuckle. This wasn't me, but I'm always getting the movie plot and actors wrong. Only my husband knows what and who I truly mean (which is why I can never leave him). |
Anonymous
Go back and watch the movie, or google the scene. |
Anonymous
https://tenor.com/Mp2M.gif |
Anonymous
Probably at least a year. Possibly weeks, possibly a decade. |