Just realized I forgot her birthday that was 6 months ago.

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[Post New]07/26/2018 23:02
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Anonymous
I’ve been dating a girl for almost a year now, we became official last summer.

I was buying a pair of tennis shoes for my sister online for her birthday. I asked my girlfriend for her opinion on color, mentioning they were for my sisters birthday a month from now.

My girlfriend says very coolly: “the purple is nice. I would have liked those for my birthday, too”

I just realized now that I took her out for dinner and brought her flowers, but never bought her a present. How bad did I f up? Her birthday was in January.
[Post New]07/26/2018 23:04
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Anonymous
You took her to dinner and got her flowers and she expected more after 6 months? Sounds high maintenance.
[Post New]07/27/2018 00:12
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Anonymous
You are fine. If dinner was at a nice place and the flowers weren’t a $7 bouquet from Whole Foods, you’re good. A gift would have been nice, but at six months it’s still optional.
[Post New]07/27/2018 00:44
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Anonymous
At 6 months, acknowledging the birthday in any way (dinner, drinks, etc) is fine. Kind of tacky she seemed to want a gift. I'm a non-gift person though (7 years! we take trips. ha) so that may cloud my vision.
[Post New]07/27/2018 00:45
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Anonymous
First of all you didn’t forget.

Second of all ... what did she get you? Was her birthday first or your’s?
[Post New]07/27/2018 07:03
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Anonymous
Ug, if she is still holding a grudge on that I'd say dump her.
[Post New]07/27/2018 07:06
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Ug, if she is still holding a grudge on that I'd say dump her.


Doesn’t sound grudgey at all. She didn’t criticize his efforts six months ago. It sounds like a good gift hint, OP.
[Post New]07/27/2018 07:06
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You took her to dinner and got her flowers and she expected more after 6 months? Sounds high maintenance.


+1
[Post New]07/27/2018 07:07
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Anonymous
Huh? So you didn’t forget her birthday. Kind of weird for an adult to expect a present for her birthday. How old are you two?
[Post New]07/27/2018 07:07
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:At 6 months, acknowledging the birthday in any way (dinner, drinks, etc) is fine. Kind of tacky she seemed to want a gift. I'm a non-gift person though (7 years! we take trips. ha) so that may cloud my vision.


I think we’re reading her desires into that statement.
[Post New]07/27/2018 07:14
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Anonymous
Eh, no biggie. I'd just use it as information moving forward. Now you know her expectations; you can plan accordingly. What you did was fine for some (would have been fine for me) and not fine for others. If she's the sort of person to be mad about it for 6 months and never let you know; good to know now. Or, maybe she's just telling you for future reference.
[Post New]07/27/2018 08:12
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Anonymous
You might be reading into this too much. She might have been expressing approval of the present you were getting your sister. Like a thumbs up, good choice in shoes. But it depends on the tone she used.
[Post New]07/27/2018 08:14
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Anonymous
But the bigger question here for me is who knows their SISTER's tennis shoe size? Aren't shoes a really personal buy?

I don't even know my husband's shoe size.

OK, I do know my sister's shoe size, but I'm a woman.
[Post New]07/27/2018 08:18
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Anonymous
Why are people so focused on receiving “stuff”.

You sounded young in your post, but maybe you aren’t really a millennial.
[Post New]07/27/2018 08:23
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:But the bigger question here for me is who knows their SISTER's tennis shoe size? Aren't shoes a really personal buy?

I don't even know my husband's shoe size.

OK, I do know my sister's shoe size, but I'm a woman.


You're a woman, and what?
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