Just realized I forgot her birthday that was 6 months ago.

[Anonymous]

If you took her out and got flowers, you didn’t forget.

Run from this, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a girl for almost a year now, we became official last summer.

I was buying a pair of tennis shoes for my sister online for her birthday. I asked my girlfriend for her opinion on color, mentioning they were for my sisters birthday a month from now.

My girlfriend says very coolly: “the purple is nice. I would have liked those for my birthday, too”

I just realized now that I took her out for dinner and brought her flowers, but never bought her a present. How bad did I f up? Her birthday was in January.

Did you wish her a happy birthday or was it just random that you took her out and brought her flowers?

[Anonymous]

Flowers and dinner is fine, esp after only 6 m of dating. But now you know she is the type to expect a gift, not vocalize it directly but make a passive aggressive comment. Going forward you can either buy gifts and hope she's satisfied with them or expect to see her posting here about how unloved she feels because you didn't get her a gift..

Fwiw, dh forgot my bday this year but as in completely spaced. Luckily I don't use that as a barometer of his affection for me. For itger people it's a big deal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But the bigger question here for me is who knows their SISTER's tennis shoe size? Aren't shoes a really personal buy?

I don't even know my husband's shoe size.

OK, I do know my sister's shoe size, but I'm a woman.

You're a woman, and what?

There is no way my brother knows my shoe size, bra size, pant size, dress size, height, or weight. That's what I'm saying. And, also that it is more likely that a woman to know her sister's shoe size because they probably shared shoes growing up. At least until one of them had bigger feet.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she wasn’t saying she expected them from you, but just saying it’s a good gift.

I’ve had plenty of conversations like “do you think X would like this as a gift?” And the answer is “I would, so I assume X would”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she wasn’t saying she expected them from you, but just saying it’s a good gift.

I’ve had plenty of conversations like “do you think X would like this as a gift?” And the answer is “I would, so I assume X would”

his is exactly what I was thinking. She may not have been making a passive aggressive comment about not getting a gift, but rather saying she would have liked it so she thinks the sister would like it too. Way to assume the worst, people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But the bigger question here for me is who knows their SISTER's tennis shoe size? Aren't shoes a really personal buy?

I don't even know my husband's shoe size.

OK, I do know my sister's shoe size, but I'm a woman.

I think it’s weird that you don’t know your husband’s shoe size! I know the size of my parents, brother, niece, nephews, and most of my friends. We’ve either gone she shopping or it’s come up in conversation.

[Anonymous]

Buy them for her.

[Anonymous]

It's just a passive aggressive hint to get her a gift next time. If she was that high maintenance she would have broken down in tears months ago

[Anonymous]

Buy her the tennis shoes as a 1/2 bday present OP.

[Anonymous]

It is weird to me that you were buying shoes for your sister. I bet that was weird to your girlfriend, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is weird to me that you were buying shoes for your sister. I bet that was weird to your girlfriend, too.

+1

She was probably thinking , why is he buying is sister shoes? All I got was flowers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But the bigger question here for me is who knows their SISTER's tennis shoe size? Aren't shoes a really personal buy?

I don't even know my husband's shoe size.

OK, I do know my sister's shoe size, but I'm a woman.

I think it’s weird that you don’t know your husband’s shoe size! I know the size of my parents, brother, niece, nephews, and most of my friends. We’ve either gone she shopping or it’s come up in conversation.

Width as well? I think it is difficult to buy myself shoes, can't imagine buying somebody else shoes. Such a personal item. Underwear is more forgiving than shoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You took her to dinner and got her flowers and she expected more after 6 months? Sounds high maintenance.

+1

+2

[Anonymous]

No, OP, I think what you forgot is that you DID celebrate her birthday, and that in retrospect you wish you'd gotten her a gift because you are still with her. So buy her the shoes if you want to be with somebody who might still be thinking about what you didn't get her for her well celebrated birthday 6 months ago.