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Advice for #2 at 40+
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Anonymous
| Hi, we are thinking about having #2 after having baby #1 7 months ago. I would be 40 at #1's first birthday. Any of you older moms have any advice on when to start or any other wrinkles I haven't though about? Will it be easier that I conceived at 38 and had #1 at 39? |
Anonymous
| I had my third at 40 - and while I had a perfectly normal and healthy pregnancy- it was waaaay harder on my body than my first two (at 34 and 37). Just a lot more aches and pains etc. I was much more uncomfortable, tired, grouchy, nauseous. But, that being said, everything went very smoothly and I had a natural birth with midwife that was fantastic. Just be prepared to pamper yourself a little more this time around. Pregnancy massage really helped, as did swimming, yoga, and lots of naps. Oh and ice cream is good too. Good luck! |
Anonymous
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To PP,
Were you more nervous about something going wrong the last time? I'm thinking of having baby 3 at 40, but I'm terrified that I'm pushing my odds. I already have two healthy wonderful children, I'm just nervous that I won't get so lucky next time. |
Anonymous
| Had number 2 at 41. Same pains/ect... as first pregnancy. I did have to have a c sec on sec, but I don't think it had anything to do with age, it was size, and position of baby. If you want another, go for it. There are no guarantees, even if you are 20. |
Anonymous
| OP, I'm like you. Had my first at 39 1/2 (conceived immediately) and wanted a second. Based on the first, I thought I would have no problem getting pregnant again. I subsequently had two miscarriages before giving birth to my second at 42 1/2. I feel EXTREMELY lucky that I was able to have a second. Please start trying ASAP! Good luck. |
Anonymous
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Did you have problems conceivng the first? If yes, I hear that it is easier to get pregnant within 1 year of having the first. That's ROUGH in my book, but if it will help with getting pregnant faster and without treatment, then it is something to consider. I had my child at 39. Normal pregnancy but was not prepared for all the aches and pains I got after I delivered and had to carry her a lot. May not have been as bad if I was in better shape!
I did have an amnio done which alleviated a lot, but not all, my concerns regading the health of the baby. Other than that, i know it is harder to get pregnant as you get older and your risk for a downs baby is higher, but other than that, I don't know of any other age related issues. |
Anonymous
| 14:47 here again. The second pregnancy was very similar to the first. I was just more tired because of having a toddler, but that's true at any age. |
Anonymous
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Do any of you worry about being an "older parent" as your kids grow up? I worry about it a little, even though I know it's just a few years between the ages of my kids and my friends' kids.
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Anonymous
| OP here - I got pregnant on the second try. But I was 38. I would be now trying at 40. Some say that is a big difference. I was told by my OB not to get pregnant before one year as our bodies need to recover from each pregnancy. 14:47 PP, have you heard something different? |
Anonymous
| to 12:16 poster - I was more nervous, but not overly so. Maybe I was just being naive, but I had two previous easy conceptions, easy pregnancies, and healthy children, so I felt somewhat relaxed. Plus, #3 was a bit of a surprise, although we had been thinking about a third. I had my first amnio for my third pregnancy, and I'm not sure I would do that again. That being said, I was very relieved when I learned everything was ok - potential problems were definitely more on our mind. |
Anonymous
| Had my first at 38-pregnant first try and uncomplicated pregnancy although severe morning sickness. Now I am pregnant at 40--again conceived on first try and ..unlike the first pregnancy where I could not function, I feel great..sometimes I have a little headache and a dizzy feeling for a moment or two but that's it so don't think if you had a tough pregnancy for number one, age will mean number two will be harder. As for being an older parent--I have no worries-I am in better shape than when I was 25 and have infinitely more patience and financial means to take care of a little person. Age is in your mind--there are some 60 year olds who have the energy of a 20 year old and some 20 year olds who act like a senior citizen. Biggest advice is just worry about your own family and ignore the haters. |
Anonymous
Thanks for your great post and wishing you a continued great pregnancy! 
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Anonymous
Yes - you are correct. My OB told me that for those of us who had problems conceiving the first one, which was my case, it is easier to get pregnant within the first year after delivering. But, he did warn me that it isn't recommended for the reasons you listed. He did say if I chose this route to at least wait 6-7 months. Sorry I wasn't more clear. |
Anonymous
I think about this once in awhile. I don't want to be the 50 year old mom when all the other kids have 35 year old moms. But, I take comfort knowing that I am not alone and there are a alot more older moms this day. |
Anonymous
Yes, me too. It just makes me and DH think more about making good choices about diet, exercise, etc.! |