Advice for #2 at 40+

[Anonymous]

Start now. I conceived at 36 (#1), 37 (miscarriage), 37 again (#2), and 40 (#3). It was easy to conceive the first three times, but the last took over a year, and the pregnancy was complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I got pregnant on the second try. But I was 38. I would be now trying at 40. Some say that is a big difference. I was told by my OB not to get pregnant before one year as our bodies need to recover from each pregnancy. 14:47 PP, have you heard something different?

I guess if you have all the time in the world, this is not bad advice. But at a more advanced age, you gotta go for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I got pregnant on the second try. But I was 38. I would be now trying at 40. Some say that is a big difference. I was told by my OB not to get pregnant before one year as our bodies need to recover from each pregnancy. 14:47 PP, have you heard something different?

I guess if you have all the time in the world, this is not bad advice. But at a more advanced age, you gotta go for it!

Yes, I had DS at 36 after 4 years TTC. Then got pregnant naturally eight months later. My second pregnancy was actually much much easier than the first. It was a breeze.

I am considering a third child now, but I would be 40....

Anyhow, I don't see ANY need to wait a year. In fact, both my ob and my fertility specialists urged me to start trying right away. And it worked out great. Good luck to all!

[Anonymous]

Ladies, I have you all beat. I had #1 at age 42 and number 2 just a year ago at 45! Both were perfectly natural conceptions and pregnancies (thankfully) went well, though second was definitely harder on the body than the first. Yes, it can be done but does get more difficult with every passing day/ month/ year. So don't delay.

[Anonymous]

I went through IVF and they gave me the OK to start again after 6 months and as long as I had 3 normal periods - I would assume natural pregnancy would be the same.

[Anonymous]

hurray for the "more mature momma" you give me hope for a number three someday--would it be okay to ask a few questions. I am the 40 year old who conceived right away. I noticed that both sides of my family have had kids into mid forties so I was thinking that this must be genetic?? But..will add that I have never smoked a day in my life and never drank to excess so maybe this is a factor?? I am just glad to see more ladies out there who can have a baby either naturally or through techonology--babies are great. Of course adoption is also great and might be in my plans if I do run out of time but positive conception stories are great for all of us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do any of you worry about being an "older parent" as your kids grow up? I worry about it a little, even though I know it's just a few years between the ages of my kids and my friends' kids.

I think about this once in awhile. I don't want to be the 50 year old mom when all the other kids have 35 year old moms. But, I take comfort knowing that I am not alone and there are a alot more older moms this day.

Me too - and now it is too late to be an option one way or the other. The pros of being an older parent are that youv'e gotten things out of your system and also you are "wiser"......hopefully you are also more $$ stable, clear on career, home, etc.
That said - sometimes I wish I had started earlier so that 1 - I could have had maybe one more ( i have 2), also - if I had started real early - I would be (hopefully) like my parents - who were traveling, enjoying their friends and home projects, and looking forward to grandchildren! I am going to be 75 years old when I get my first grandchild - if I am lucky. It must be wonderful to be able to enjoy grandchildren when you are still young - ish!