Do you like your inebriated spouse?

[Anonymous]

DH came home really drunk last week after a night out with friends. I didn't expect him to be fully sober when he arrived home, but this was way over where I thought he'd be. I just found myself entirely turned off and grossed me out that he was drunk. I wasn't mad, he didn't put anybody at risk by being trashed (no driving), I like when he goes out with friends, everybody needs to have that time with friends and not family. He didn't blackout, no vomiting (I don't think).

But still, I do not want to see him like this ever. Is this a normal reaction?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH came home really drunk last week after a night out with friends. I didn't expect him to be fully sober when he arrived home, but this was way over where I thought he'd be. I just found myself entirely turned off and grossed me out that he was drunk. I wasn't mad, he didn't put anybody at risk by being trashed (no driving), I like when he goes out with friends, everybody needs to have that time with friends and not family. He didn't blackout, no vomiting (I don't think).

But still, I do not want to see him like this ever. Is this a normal reaction?

Sober people don't like drunk people. Sober people especially don't like sloppy drunk people.

If you were drunk you may have liked him and had a better time with him after arriving home. Your DH and his friends probably had a good time.

[Anonymous]

Also pissed at my drunk spouse. He does not seem to understand that when he is mopey and low-energy the day after, it affects the whole family and does not put me in the mood for the sex that he then tries to initiate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH came home really drunk last week after a night out with friends. I didn't expect him to be fully sober when he arrived home, but this was way over where I thought he'd be. I just found myself entirely turned off and grossed me out that he was drunk. I wasn't mad, he didn't put anybody at risk by being trashed (no driving), I like when he goes out with friends, everybody needs to have that time with friends and not family. He didn't blackout, no vomiting (I don't think).

But still, I do not want to see him like this ever. Is this a normal reaction?

Sober people don't like drunk people. Sober people especially don't like sloppy drunk people.

If you were drunk you may have liked him and had a better time with him after arriving home. Your DH and his friends probably had a good time.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH came home really drunk last week after a night out with friends. I didn't expect him to be fully sober when he arrived home, but this was way over where I thought he'd be. I just found myself entirely turned off and grossed me out that he was drunk. I wasn't mad, he didn't put anybody at risk by being trashed (no driving), I like when he goes out with friends, everybody needs to have that time with friends and not family. He didn't blackout, no vomiting (I don't think).

But still, I do not want to see him like this ever. Is this a normal reaction?

Sober people don't like drunk people. Sober people especially don't like sloppy drunk people.

If you were drunk you may have liked him and had a better time with him after arriving home. Your DH and his friends probably had a good time.

This.

Yup, this is my experience with DH as well, but this reaction might skew more female. In my limited experience, DH is not grossed out at all by me when I’m drunk.

[Anonymous]

I've seen my spouse tipsy maybe twice in 9 years. Both times, we were in our late 20s/early 30s, so it was cute. Now that we have two kids and lots of responsibilities, I don't think it would be remotely charming, unless we were alone on vacation.

[Anonymous]

I do but he's neurotic by nature (see: thread about glass-half-empty spouses)

[Anonymous]

Nope, I loathe my drunk husband. He isn't nasty or anything (thank god, not an angry drunk) but he's a lightweight and he very quickly just gets sloppy and stupid. And he can easily get to the point of throwing up - which I have zero respect for in a man in his mid-40s.

It's one of our biggest marital issues (and was an issue while dating also.)

He thinks I'm uptight and weird about it because I come from a long line of alcoholics and addicts - and there is some validity in that.

[Anonymous]

OK, that sounds reasonable. I was completely sober, having spent a sweet day with the kids (no resentment). But ... sober people just don't like drunk people.

I can agree with that statement.

[Anonymous]

Yes, DH was sloppy and stupid. It was repulsive. Beyond tipsy.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I won’t do it with DH when he’s drunk, but it’s not terribly often and it doesn’t bother me that he drinks. He goes out with friends maybe 2-3 times a month (we don’t have kids and his friends don’t). So while I don’t find drunk DH terribly attractive, it doesn’t bother me that much.

There are times we both get drunk and I’m sure I’m no peach either, lol.

[Anonymous]

sober DW = horny DW
tipsy DW = super horny DW
drunk DW = passed out DW and not so horny

I really like sober or tipsy DW

[Anonymous]

I don't find it attractive but it's sorta cute when my husband is wasted. But for one thing he's super affectionate and full of praise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do but he's neurotic by nature (see: thread about glass-half-empty spouses)

I should clarify I'm talking about a bit tipsy/silly, not sloppy drunk.

[Anonymous]

I'd expect a lot of gender variation on this -- mostly because drunk women are often more fun about sex.