Would you send a gay child to a Catholic school?

[Anonymous]

No matter how welcoming it may be, do you think it would set the child up for self-hatred?

[Anonymous]

No I would not. Yes, you are setting your child up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: No I would not. Yes, you are setting your child up.

+1

[Anonymous]

Not if I cared about them. I would send them if I wanted them to kill themselves.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't to a Catholic school, but I would consider a parochial school of a more open-minded sect.

[Anonymous]

Some Catholic communities are more gay-friendly than others, but you really can't get past their basic doctrine. If you really feel it's the best school around and they don't seem too judgy, it might be okay. But, honestly, you should find another option that doesn't involve him being told he's going to hell every day.

[Anonymous]

Not sure about in this area as I don't have experience, but my niece and nephews go to a Catholic school in CA that is very inclusive. Nephew came out after being in the school from 3rd grade to when he moved to the upper school for high school. SIL & BIL asked if he wanted to change schools and he declined. They've not had any bullying issues, but their CA location is uber-liberal.

[Anonymous]

I have a gay son. No I would t send him to a catholic school. It’s hard enough for a teen to be different. I would never want him to feel bad about who he is and I can’t imagine that a catholic school wouldn’t present a significant possibility of this occurring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some Catholic communities are more gay-friendly than others, but you really can't get past their basic doctrine. If you really feel it's the best school around and they don't seem too judgy, it might be okay. But, honestly, you should find another option that doesn't involve him being told he's going to hell every day.

Given that there are more than a few gay Catholic priests, they're not telling kids who identify as gay that they're going to hell.

[Anonymous]

It is well known that if you recite enough Hail Marys, God will remove the evil gay urges from your mind.

[Anonymous]

Maybe discuss it with Father Martin

https://www.americamagazine.org/faith/2016/10/30/james-martin-sj-we-need-build-bridge-between-lgbt-community-and-catholic-church

[Anonymous]

There’s the Eden Invitation - openness, but celibacy

https://www.edeninvitation.com/

[Anonymous]

I think it really depends on the school. My kid at St. John’s came out as a sophomore and received nothing but support.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the age of the kid, and where we lived. In the SF Bay Area, I'd probably be okay with it. In this area, with one of the most conservative dioceses in the country, I probably wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some Catholic communities are more gay-friendly than others, but you really can't get past their basic doctrine. If you really feel it's the best school around and they don't seem too judgy, it might be okay. But, honestly, you should find another option that doesn't involve him being told he's going to hell every day.

I am a Catholic school graduate and the idea that Catholic high schools are telling gay kids that they’re going to hell, let alone every day, is silly and couldn’t be more inaccurate.