No one has rsvp'd to daughter's bday party

[Anonymous]

Party is on the 30th. I sent invites two weeks ago to family and friends and not one person has rsvp'd. I know my brother is going to come and probably my in-laws but other than that. 30+ people, no word. Do I cancel her party and do a small dinner with just in-laws? Embarrassed and hurt. I know invites were received because my brother and in-laws live in different states and got there's but even they havent actually confirmed they can come..it's her 2nd birthday so I know she would be happy doing almost anything. I have texted and emailed a few family members but they have not responded. Just feeling down.

[Anonymous]

What was the RSVP deadline?

[Anonymous]

Just do something small.

[Anonymous]

OP the number of text and email reminders that people need these days is shockingly high. Now that you are one week out, you are well within bounds to step up the RSVP requests. You need a head count so you can plan, and it's fair for you to say so. The good news is that at age 2 your DD won't care who comes or doesn't come.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry. That's a really hard weekend. My birthday is June 30 and I stopped trying to have parties years ago. Between summer vacations and extended July 4th weekends, so many people are tied up with other plans. Please don't take it personally.

I wouldn't cancel it, but maybe adjust plans for a smaller group. Good luck and happy birthday to your daughter!

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, that sucks. I wouldn’t expect family to travel too far for a 2nd birthday party though. A lot of people want to take the long weekend through July 4th for a getaway. Maybe next year, pick a weekend that isn’t around the July 4th week.

[Anonymous]

Who was invited? 2yo is kind of awkward for a birthday party, in my experience. They're really too young to have real friends at preschool/daycare yet, and for family, it's typically not a big milestone birthday like the first year one is. We did small family birthdays for both kids for 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who was invited? 2yo is kind of awkward for a birthday party, in my experience. They're really too young to have real friends at preschool/daycare yet, and for family, it's typically not a big milestone birthday like the first year one is. We did small family birthdays for both kids for 2.

Not in my experience- both my daughters had second birthday parties and we had around 40 people for each.

[Anonymous]

I’d send email/text reminder asking for rsvps by Monday. Then see what happens.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t travel from out of state during a holiday week for. 2 yr olds bday party. I would RSVP though. I can understand being embarrassed but dwell on it, it’s a learning experience. Little kid bdays are only a really big deal for he kids parents.

[Anonymous]

People are inexcusably rude nowadays. I would just cancel and keep it immediate family. Send an email just saying "party is cancelled.". No explanation needed. Next year give a definite RSVP date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d send email/text reminder asking for rsvps by Monday. Then see what happens.

I agree. E-mails/texts tomorrow. Then I would do follow-up phone calls on Tuesday. I know it is a tough weekend but it is really rude; however, don't take it personally, OP. People just aren't used to responding ahead of time these days and need a lot of reminders.

[Anonymous]

No one should be expected to come from another state for a 2 year old's birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who was invited? 2yo is kind of awkward for a birthday party, in my experience. They're really too young to have real friends at preschool/daycare yet, and for family, it's typically not a big milestone birthday like the first year one is. We did small family birthdays for both kids for 2.

Not in my experience- both my daughters had second birthday parties and we had around 40 people for each.

You are not typical and your humblebrag is not helping OPs situation.

[Anonymous]

I do think it's crazy to expect family to travel for a 2 year olds birthday.

Local friends of hers and family should have rsvped.