No one has rsvp'd to daughter's bday party

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone responding that a lot of people travel that week is sort of missing the point. Of course many people have plans. Those people should RSVP no. It's not hard. People are just incredibly rude and lazy.

Obviously they should psvp. But they have not so we are trying to help OP come up with a good alternative that will take that plus travel into account when planning her DD's future celebrations.

[Anonymous]

My birthday is at the end of June too and we always had my birthday parties earlier in June because so many people would be traveling or busy with 4th of July stuff around the time of my birthday. Obviously too late to change it this year but in he future it might be better to have the party at a different time. It is really annoying when people don't rsvp though. I would follow up with them to make sure--call so you get an immediate response or send a Facebook message so that you can tell if they've seen it or not.

[Anonymous]

People are too ignorant and/or crude to reply to a RSVP. Either they just arrive without notice or fail to respond.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't help you this year, OP, but in the future I'd also recommend doing email invitations like Paperless Post vs sending traditional invitations in the mail. So much better for rsvp management because you can see when someone reads it, send reminders, and people can instantly reply. Does it lack some of the charm of the paper tradition? Maybe, but the benefit to your sanity will be worth it.

I'm sorry that your loved ones have not been supportive in the way that you hoped they would. I hope that you can make her special day fun. My dd's bday is at the end of June, so I totally get that it can be a pain working around everyone's summer plans to celebrate.

[Anonymous]

No one should be expected to come from another state for a 2 year old's birthday

Expected is an important word in this sentence. Yes Op should expect rsvps, however, Op should not *expect* people to travel for a 2 year old's birthday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't help you this year, OP, but in the future I'd also recommend doing email invitations like Paperless Post vs sending traditional invitations in the mail. So much better for rsvp management because you can see when someone reads it, send reminders, and people can instantly reply. Does it lack some of the charm of the paper tradition? Maybe, but the benefit to your sanity will be worth it.

I'm sorry that your loved ones have not been supportive in the way that you hoped they would. I hope that you can make her special day fun. My dd's bday is at the end of June, so I totally get that it can be a pain working around everyone's summer plans to celebrate.

+1. If you don’t use electronic invitations, this will happen again. People overlook paper, they lose it, they forget. The fact that so many people in your circle did not respond shows paper is not the route for your social circle. This year we went sent paper invitations to the people we could not find by email, and sure enough, NONE of the paper invite people responded without follow up.

Also, evite or paperless post allows you to track you hasn’t opened your invitation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, that sucks. I wouldn’t expect family to travel too far for a 2nd birthday party though. A lot of people want to take the long weekend through July 4th for a getaway. Maybe next year, pick a weekend that isn’t around the July 4th week.

Not OP but the point is they should RSVP "no" if they're not coming.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, echoing PPs to say can people stop talking about how unreasonable it is to have a party that week or think family will travel in? OP isn't upset everyone has RSVP'd "no" she's annoyed she hasn't heard from anyone at all.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the out-of-towners thought it was just a courtesy invitation, not a real one requiring an RSVP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A two-year-old does not need a party with upwards of 40 people in attendance. That's just insane.

That said, people who don't RSVP are total schmucks.

NP. I agree that having a party for a 2 year old is ridiculous. It's clearly for the mother. A few balloons and a cake and present with siblings and grandparents is fine and more than enough for a 2 year old. Expecting people with lives to attend is incredibly self absorbed. OP said they attended and supported her last year, and a 2 year old is too young to really understand or remember a party.

I agree that it's very rude to not RSVP, but OP is clearly a special snowflake with special entitlement issues, so I can imagine that people just feel strange about saying no and are waiting to see if they can get a better excuse. They can probably figure out that she'll hold it against them forever and are trying to prevent that if they can.

OP should realize that she was expecting far too much, cancel the party (in a NICE way, not by throwing a tantrum) and do one in a couple of years when it actually makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A two-year-old does not need a party with upwards of 40 people in attendance. That's just insane.

That said, people who don't RSVP are total schmucks.

NP. I agree that having a party for a 2 year old is ridiculous. It's clearly for the mother. A few balloons and a cake and present with siblings and grandparents is fine and more than enough for a 2 year old. Expecting people with lives to attend is incredibly self absorbed. OP said they attended and supported her last year, and a 2 year old is too young to really understand or remember a party.

I agree that it's very rude to not RSVP, but OP is clearly a special snowflake with special entitlement issues, so I can imagine that people just feel strange about saying no and are waiting to see if they can get a better excuse. They can probably figure out that she'll hold it against them forever and are trying to prevent that if they can.

OP should realize that she was expecting far too much, cancel the party (in a NICE way, not by throwing a tantrum) and do one in a couple of years when it actually makes sense.

This is the stupidest post I've read on DCUM in a while (and that's saying a lot.) Parties are fun and a good way to connect with loved ones. Nearly everyone I know had a 1st birthday party for their child, and many have had 2nd birthday parties despite their kids being too young to articulate "Mom, I want a party." I had plenty of parties for my children when they were young and people were happy to attend, and it was a good excuse for me to entertain and see loved ones as I was not in the fancy dinner party stage of life when I had young kids. One day OP's kid will be able to look back and see the pictures and know that people who loved her were there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A two-year-old does not need a party with upwards of 40 people in attendance. That's just insane.

That said, people who don't RSVP are total schmucks.

NP. I agree that having a party for a 2 year old is ridiculous. It's clearly for the mother. A few balloons and a cake and present with siblings and grandparents is fine and more than enough for a 2 year old. Expecting people with lives to attend is incredibly self absorbed. OP said they attended and supported her last year, and a 2 year old is too young to really understand or remember a party.

I agree that it's very rude to not RSVP, but OP is clearly a special snowflake with special entitlement issues, so I can imagine that people just feel strange about saying no and are waiting to see if they can get a better excuse. They can probably figure out that she'll hold it against them forever and are trying to prevent that if they can.

OP should realize that she was expecting far too much, cancel the party (in a NICE way, not by throwing a tantrum) and do one in a couple of years when it actually makes sense.

This is the stupidest post I've read on DCUM in a while (and that's saying a lot.) Parties are fun and a good way to connect with loved ones. Nearly everyone I know had a 1st birthday party for their child, and many have had 2nd birthday parties despite their kids being too young to articulate "Mom, I want a party." I had plenty of parties for my children when they were young and people were happy to attend, and it was a good excuse for me to entertain and see loved ones as I was not in the fancy dinner party stage of life when I had young kids. One day OP's kid will be able to look back and see the pictures and know that people who loved her were there.

Ummm in case you missed the memo, OP's kid doesn't have a ton of people who will be happy to attend her party. Do you really think it's worth trying to guilt or coerce them into attending something they don't want to attend just so the mom can have some photos to show her kid in a couple of decades? You sound nuts.

Of course things are different if you have family and friends who love hanging out with you and are super keen for another excuse to do that on the special day. But that clearly isn't the case here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A two-year-old does not need a party with upwards of 40 people in attendance. That's just insane.

That said, people who don't RSVP are total schmucks.

NP. I agree that having a party for a 2 year old is ridiculous. It's clearly for the mother. A few balloons and a cake and present with siblings and grandparents is fine and more than enough for a 2 year old. Expecting people with lives to attend is incredibly self absorbed. OP said they attended and supported her last year, and a 2 year old is too young to really understand or remember a party.

I agree that it's very rude to not RSVP, but OP is clearly a special snowflake with special entitlement issues, so I can imagine that people just feel strange about saying no and are waiting to see if they can get a better excuse. They can probably figure out that she'll hold it against them forever and are trying to prevent that if they can.

OP should realize that she was expecting far too much, cancel the party (in a NICE way, not by throwing a tantrum) and do one in a couple of years when it actually makes sense.

This is the stupidest post I've read on DCUM in a while (and that's saying a lot.) Parties are fun and a good way to connect with loved ones. Nearly everyone I know had a 1st birthday party for their child, and many have had 2nd birthday parties despite their kids being too young to articulate "Mom, I want a party." I had plenty of parties for my children when they were young and people were happy to attend, and it was a good excuse for me to entertain and see loved ones as I was not in the fancy dinner party stage of life when I had young kids. One day OP's kid will be able to look back and see the pictures and know that people who loved her were there.

I agree with people who like parties! I enjoy seeing kids of friends and relatives as well as getting together. If it's for your 2 year old or if it's just because, I am always happy when people decide to have a party and think to invite me. If I am busy that day or don't want to go, I simply decline. Beating up on OP because she wants to have a party is silly.