It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

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Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

Not pregnancy struggles, it’s sometimes a doctor informing you can’t have children at all. A handful of my girlfriends from college discovered they were already barren in their early and mid 30s. Healthy and successful and told at age 33 you waited too long to have kids.

Just stop. No way this is true. It’s incredibly unusual to have your eggs depleted by early to mid 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

Not pregnancy struggles, it’s sometimes a doctor informing you can’t have children at all. A handful of my girlfriends from college discovered they were already barren in their early and mid 30s. Healthy and successful and told at age 33 you waited too long to have kids.

Just stop. No way this is true. It’s incredibly unusual to have your eggs depleted by early to mid 30s.

Sadly, it is not uncommon at all.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/13/health/women-doctors-infertility.html

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this sounds like Natalist propaganda. Whatever

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Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

Not pregnancy struggles, it’s sometimes a doctor informing you can’t have children at all. A handful of my girlfriends from college discovered they were already barren in their early and mid 30s. Healthy and successful and told at age 33 you waited too long to have kids.

Just stop. No way this is true. It’s incredibly unusual to have your eggs depleted by early to mid 30s.

Sadly, it is not uncommon at all.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/13/health/women-doctors-infertility.html

This article doesn’t support what you posted. At all. Infertility is different than being “barren” / having no eggs. The women in this article are often 40, not 30. If anything, the article is saying that stress is resulting in infertility.

You need to look closer at the causes of infertility. I had “unexplained” and started trying at age 25. You’d probably criticize me when I had my first child at 35 and tell me it’s because I waited too long. But no, even at 25 I couldn’t get pregnant without help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, will Gen X and Gen Z soon become grandparents sooner than expected? I don't think I'll be ready to be a grandma when my oldest is 22-25!

Gen Alpha doesn’t want babies.

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this sounds like Natalist propaganda. Whatever

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:I'll wait for some actual data.

+1. The responses so far have been all anecdotal. All the young people I know are marrying in their 30s.

Thank you for adding your anecdote.

I first agreed with the pp who said they were waiting for actual data. I added the anecdote just to prove my point that anecdotes aren't scientific.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

DP. You should take a logic course.

[Anonymous]

"For healthy couples in their 20s and early 30s, around 1 in 4 women will get pregnant in any single menstrual cycle. By age 40, around 1 in 10 will get pregnant per menstrual cycle. A man’s fertility also declines with age, but not as predictably."

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Anonymous wrote:This dovetails on ambitious Gen Z'ers flocking to Southern universities, where there's this pressurized ethos to find your future spouse before graduating (and get engaged shortly thereafter). WSJ just reported this:

Sorry, Harvard. Everyone Wants to Go to College in the South Now.
https://www.wsj.com/us-news/education/sorry-harvard-everyone-wants-to-go-to-college-in-the-south-now-235d7934

Southern and even Mormon aesthetics are huge on TikTok and instagram. Also sort of adjacent to the soft girl thing that’s viral. The thought of being a single 30 year old girl boss is mortifying. Total vibe shift.

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Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

Not pregnancy struggles, it’s sometimes a doctor informing you can’t have children at all. A handful of my girlfriends from college discovered they were already barren in their early and mid 30s. Healthy and successful and told at age 33 you waited too long to have kids.

Just stop. No way this is true. It’s incredibly unusual to have your eggs depleted by early to mid 30s.

Sadly, it is not uncommon at all.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/13/health/women-doctors-infertility.html

Not common ≠ common

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

DP. You should take a logic course.

The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind

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Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

Not pregnancy struggles, it’s sometimes a doctor informing you can’t have children at all. A handful of my girlfriends from college discovered they were already barren in their early and mid 30s. Healthy and successful and told at age 33 you waited too long to have kids.

Just stop. No way this is true. It’s incredibly unusual to have your eggs depleted by early to mid 30s.

Sadly, it is not uncommon at all.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/13/health/women-doctors-infertility.html

This article doesn’t support what you posted. At all. Infertility is different than being “barren” / having no eggs. The women in this article are often 40, not 30. If anything, the article is saying that stress is resulting in infertility.

You need to look closer at the causes of infertility. I had “unexplained” and started trying at age 25. You’d probably criticize me when I had my first child at 35 and tell me it’s because I waited too long. But no, even at 25 I couldn’t get pregnant without help.

This was me too. Started at 28. Delivery at 37.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

A decade plus of dating apps and STD scares was totally worth it…