It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

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Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

This.

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What matters for a successful marriage is to have maturity, character and favorable circumstances, which can align anytime between 21-35 for some or may never happen at all for others. A good partner can be your strength and a bad partner can be your weakness but unless you yourself are a good partner, you'll not have a good marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll wait for some actual data.

+1. The responses so far have been all anecdotal. All the young people I know are marrying in their 30s.

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That's why people who remarry, tend to divorce at a higher rate because they don't learn anything from age or experience. Its easier to blame other person than accept your own flaws.

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So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'll wait for some actual data.

+1. The responses so far have been all anecdotal. All the young people I know are marrying in their 30s.

Where do you think this smoking gun data will come from and who will publish it? You expect prestige outlets like 60 Minutes or The New York Times to sus this out and then highlight how a deluge of wealthy, attractive and educated young people are suddenly getting married soon after college? Don’t hold your breath for that. And of course if a conservative outlet scooped this trend with solid data you’d claim it was partisan bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

Ooooo…so scary! I better snag the first guy who looks my way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll wait for some actual data.

+1. The responses so far have been all anecdotal. All the young people I know are marrying in their 30s.

Where do you think this smoking gun data will come from and who will publish it? You expect prestige outlets like 60 Minutes or The New York Times to sus this out and then highlight how a deluge of wealthy, attractive and educated young people are suddenly getting married soon after college? Don’t hold your breath for that. And of course if a conservative outlet scooped this trend with solid data you’d claim it was partisan bullshit.

Sounds like a cOnSpIrAcY to me!

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Anonymous wrote:Why do some of you feel the need to comment on when people get married. Are people who get married in their 20s so insecure?

People who aren't married or married late are the ones bothered by others marrying in their mid 20's.

Right…and who started this dumb ass thread?

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The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

DCUM has had an influx of RWNJs in recent years.

+100

It's a fundamental tenant of the rwnjs that they want kids married young. They don't want them wasting time getting educated and possibly more liberal. Marry young, have low level blue collar jobs and it's assumed they'll become repugnicans.

I couldn’t have been the only one who had no idea what the acronym RWNJ meant, right? I had to google it. Seems like a term used by people who spend too much time on the internet and listening to partisan podcast babble. Whatever the case, politics has nothing to do with young people getting married, becoming homeowners, and building a life together. Outside of DC, the average young adult doesn’t give a darn about politics. Caring about politics in your 20s is dorky and fringe.

RWNJs are proudly ignorant. Case in point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What matters for a successful marriage is to have maturity, character and favorable circumstances, which can align anytime between 21-35 for some or may never happen at all for others. A good partner can be your strength and a bad partner can be your weakness but unless you yourself are a good partner, you'll not have a good marriage.

This is brilliantly stated! Thank you. I hope you’re a therapist or have young people in your life who get to hear this!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

Ooooo…so scary! I better snag the first guy who looks my way.

Yeah, probably. Both young men and women dating to marry much earlier in life and just diving into marriage would be better for all involved. I would rather draw a name out of a hat containing guy friends from my college social circle at 22 than 10 to 15 years of dating, breakups, baggage & therapy before settling for some balding random man I met on some app.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

Not pregnancy struggles, it’s sometimes a doctor informing you can’t have children at all. A handful of my girlfriends from college discovered they were already barren in their early and mid 30s. Healthy and successful and told at age 33 you waited too long to have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

DCUM has had an influx of RWNJs in recent years.

+100

It's a fundamental tenant of the rwnjs that they want kids married young. They don't want them wasting time getting educated and possibly more liberal. Marry young, have low level blue collar jobs and it's assumed they'll become repugnicans.

I couldn’t have been the only one who had no idea what the acronym RWNJ meant, right? I had to google it. Seems like a term used by people who spend too much time on the internet and listening to partisan podcast babble. Whatever the case, politics has nothing to do with young people getting married, becoming homeowners, and building a life together. Outside of DC, the average young adult doesn’t give a darn about politics. Caring about politics in your 20s is dorky and fringe.

Well, I dislike the term RWNJ as much as I dislike terms used to demean liberals. That being said, caring about politics in your 20's isn't dorky or fringe but a sign of maturity and engagement in society.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'll wait for some actual data.

+1. The responses so far have been all anecdotal. All the young people I know are marrying in their 30s.

Thank you for adding your anecdote.