Why do female executives have affairs with the male senior executives they work for or with?

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06/21/2018 16:19

Subject: Why do female executives have affairs with the male senior executives they work for or with?

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Anonymous

There was a thread a little while back wherein one poster described witnessing, again and again, the dynamic of younger or slightly-younger professional women (sometimes married, sometimes not) having affairs with older, powerful, married men who are C-level executives. The poster wrote:

"I haven't been on DCUM long, but I've considered about posting this before. I'm a late 30s male that has worked for large corporations and seen the exact scenario play out that the quoted poster describes. I'm the proverbial fly on the wall watching it happen.

I'm not at the [C-Suite] level, but I do work directly for people like [that], and eventually I may get there. But I see the pretty, 30-something, mid-level female executives and the 40- or 50-something male senior executives. It's a massive problem. Virtually every senior executive I know is on their second wife. I have personal relationships with two CEOs of Dow component firms , and have spoken with them about their failed marriages. One really regrets it, but I guess he made his choice and can't/won't go back.

I have to believe it is the power. These aren't bad people. But if you get treated like royalty long enough I have to believe most people come to believe they are entitled to whatever they want. I can say from experience that success and power are powerful aphrodisiacs, and women that wouldn't look twice at me normally, look at me differently when I'm on a stage giving a keynote to 4000 people at a conference.

I am close with two women who are second wives of men like [that] . . . Neither will admit to starting anything with their now-husbands before either side was divorced, but I would bet every penny I own that at least one did, if not both. Both . . . had strong but not stratospheric careers, but now have it made because the husband's comp packages are so large (no pun intended) . . .

I guess I really hate the idea of "trading up" just because one spouse was so successful. I felt bad enough without ever having read a story like [this]. Maybe it makes the [first wife] that other men watching this happen disapprove? I know one female colleague who was close to a male mentor doing this, and confronted him. He denied it and threatened to fire her if she ever spoke of it again. He's now married to the AP my friend confronted him about."

I thought of this when I read today that married C.E.O. of Intel, Brian Krzanich, resigned today (i.e., was asked to step down) over a consensual affair he had with another Intel employee.

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/06/21/technology/intel-ceo-resigns-consensual-relationship.html

I wonder if junior executives and employees, like the man quoted above, are finally starting to report behavior and affairs that they find objectionable in the workplace? Or maybe Krzanich's wife just turned him in.