Why do female executives have affairs with the male senior executives they work for or with?

[Anonymous]

It's all about how these younger women make the men feel. My ex husband was a senior exec in his firm. Had an affair with his secretary. Of course, in his case it was different because she was his soulmate, they were in love, etc.

Broke up two families, 5 kids lives upended. Shockingly, it didn't work out once her only role in his life was to get him coffee, tell him how strong and powerful he was, had to listen to 3 step kids screaming and crying, telling him they hated him, etc.

Poor stupid woman is a laughingstock for sleeping with the boss, and he's no worse for the wear and on to the next secretary.

At the end of the day, about these women making the men feel needed, strong, invincible, larger than life. In a way that a true equal partner can't.... because we are real, we tell them to pick up their freaking socks and take out the trash and stop being so full of themselves.

[Anonymous]

At work women have to be rational, which is refreshing and a nice change of pace for those men who don’t get that at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are attracted to high-status, wealth, and success. This has always been true and will never not be true.

Hence, why women monkey-branch in their relationships with men even outside the workplace.

[Anonymous]

Proximity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do male senior executives have affairs with their subordinates?

THIS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do male senior executives have affairs with their subordinates?

THIS

Because if you are a successful, intelligent, and serious woman (or man) in the workplace it especially bothers you to observe some of your female (or male) colleagues and peers employ this kind of 'mentorship' relationship, or 'social' networking to climb the professional ladder. It makes you wonder whether the promoted woman (or man) who dated the partner/boss truly deserved it, and ask yourself whether you need to be doing the same

[Anonymous]

Perhaps the firing of Intel CEO Krzanich for his sexual relationship with an employee who reported to him, will start a #MeToo cascade effect of moral rectification across the professional landscape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's all about how these younger women make the men feel. My ex husband was a senior exec in his firm. Had an affair with his secretary. Of course, in his case it was different because she was his soulmate, they were in love, etc.

Broke up two families, 5 kids lives upended. Shockingly, it didn't work out once her only role in his life was to get him coffee, tell him how strong and powerful he was, had to listen to 3 step kids screaming and crying, telling him they hated him, etc.

Poor stupid woman is a laughingstock for sleeping with the boss, and he's no worse for the wear and on to the next secretary.

At the end of the day, about these women making the men feel needed, strong, invincible, larger than life. In a way that a true equal partner can't.... because we are real, we tell them to pick up their freaking socks and take out the trash and stop being so full of themselves.

Are men’s egos so fragile that they need a woman to constantly tell them how strong and powerful they are? I’m a woman, and I completely understand wanting postitve affirmation from the opposite sex, but I don’t need my husband or other men to constantly swoon over my beauty to feel good about myself.

[Anonymous]

Women are attracted to power and are turned on by confidence. Men want to be admired. Combine it with working closely creating intimacy and I am surprised it doesn't happen more.

I had a couple of these flings and realize in hindsight how easy they are to start and how they can get out of hand quickly. So now I have a hard and fast rule about after hours contact, whom I will mentor and time alone with women subordinate to me.

[Anonymous]

It's natural to be attracted to someone that you share common interests, goals, and ambitions.

Also, men can become very resentful when a woman makes significantly more money than him. They perceive the slightest push back as being too aggressive. So, it's natural to seek out like minded people, and those that are closest to you are easiest.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why but DH who has had to work for numerous C suite women having affairs with the CEO in various organizations says that the women are power hungry, bad managers/in over their heads (several were unmarried women/married men scenarios), often very insecure and the CEOs are usually a$$es. It makes life miserable for all around them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's all about how these younger women make the men feel. My ex husband was a senior exec in his firm. Had an affair with his secretary. Of course, in his case it was different because she was his soulmate, they were in love, etc.

Broke up two families, 5 kids lives upended. Shockingly, it didn't work out once her only role in his life was to get him coffee, tell him how strong and powerful he was, had to listen to 3 step kids screaming and crying, telling him they hated him, etc.

Poor stupid woman is a laughingstock for sleeping with the boss, and he's no worse for the wear and on to the next secretary.

At the end of the day, about these women making the men feel needed, strong, invincible, larger than life. In a way that a true equal partner can't.... because we are real, we tell them to pick up their freaking socks and take out the trash and stop being so full of themselves.

Are men’s egos so fragile that they need a woman to constantly tell them how strong and powerful they are? I’m a woman, and I completely understand wanting postitve affirmation from the opposite sex, but I don’t need my husband or other men to constantly swoon over my beauty to feel good about myself.

Good for you, but a lot of other women want to be found attractive, judging from many threads on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It didn't work out so well for the chick in Tom Hanks "Big"

She got to have sex with a younger man.

Not important

[Anonymous]

Do some companies have no fraternization rules or is it just limited to reporting relationships? I met my DH on the job and many of our friends met on the job. None us were ever in reporting relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do some companies have no fraternization rules or is it just limited to reporting relationships? I met my DH on the job and many of our friends met on the job. None us were ever in reporting relationships.

It varies from company to company. I'm pretty sure Intel's rule only applied to executives and not the rank and file.