Does anyone else want to kill their WFH spouse?

[Anonymous]

Wake up. He’s here. Go to the kitchen, he’s there. Come home, he’s here. I only WFH myself occasionally, and much less than I probably could get away with because he is always here. I can’t get five minutes alone in my own house. This has been going on for a couple of years and it seems to have made him more territorial about the house. For example, I go to the kitchen and he seems to pop up and almost guards the place, like a bear or something. Omg get him out of here.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you need your space & I am guessing that 99% of people would feel exactly as you do OP.

Perhaps you could tell him how you feel about this as diplomatic as possible.

He should understand your reasoning on this & find a way to get out of the house more.
Or at the very least, stop showing up in rooms where you are.

You two can each have your designated work spaces in the home that you both can agree should be for a specific person only & be off limits to the other person....during certain times.

[Anonymous]

OMG I am only one year into the “spouse wfh full time” deal and it is killing me in that regard. In every other way it is a great thing, but I def am an introvert and when I walk in the door he’s like WOO HOO CONVERSATION and all i want to do is sit in a dark room by myself! And my WFH days aren’t nearly as peaceful as they used to be.
I just keep reminding myself of all the good stuff that wfh has brought us

[Anonymous]

Can you not just tell the spouse you need some alone time when you get home? It’s a perfectly reasonable ask and you can phrase it do your spouse knows it’s not a rejection of them.

[Anonymous]

You are going to miss these days when he RETIRES! It's maddening, but this is now my new normal.

[Anonymous]

No, I love it! He often does chores in his downtime, shuttles kids to late afternoon events, and gets dinner started. His WFH and my occasional WFH makes our lives so much easier.

[Anonymous]

Mine isn’t wfh full time. But when he is he just says is the office the whole time. It’s his man space with books etc and he can be there for hours and I have to tell him to come eat etc.

[Anonymous]

This post made me laugh, because I WFH, and it bugs me that DH has decided now he likes coming home for lunch. That was usually my chill and get things done time, and now I’m tripping over him. Can’t he just have lunch out like everyone else?

[Anonymous]

Ask him to designate an office space st home and work in it, or look into a co-working space. For the introverted PP, maybe gently encourage spouse to find a co-working space. When my spouse worked from home in a new city it was stressful from the conversation and loneliness point of view.

[Anonymous]

Listen, for most WOH folks with kids, there is NEVER anytime when you are in the house alone (because if you aren't working, you are getting the kids).

Do you not have children?

[Anonymous]

I WFH full time. DH works from home sometimes. When one of us calls out “I’m putting on my headphones” it means quiet time.

[Anonymous]

I get it.
I try not to let my WFH days overlap with my spouse for that reason.

[Anonymous]

yes...yes...yes...!!!!! he drives me mad! the whole house has become his office! so I turned his office into my exercise room ...haha.... it is a constant battle. Now his side of the bed broke and he has been working in my side of the bed.... I honestly just have given up...haha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Listen, for most WOH folks with kids, there is NEVER anytime when you are in the house alone (because if you aren't working, you are getting the kids).

Do you not have children?

...obviously not. If it was children, it would be like, “I go into the bathroom, and it’s kike he knows I am in there and starts pounding on the door. I get on the shower, and I hear the door open and see him peeking around the corner. I go into the kitchen, and he starts pulling random things out of the cupboard trying to get my attention, then he stands right next to me and tries to do exactly what I am doing.”

[Anonymous]

Funny!

I want to kill my spouse when he's actively sabotaging his professional life, as he has done on numerous occasions. Not working, procrastinating, not meeting deadlines, etc.
Working from home adds to the distractions he already has in his own brain.