Shocked by friend
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Anonymous
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I am a 55 yr old man and through my messy separation I have made stronger friendships. One friend (female) has been that person who I consider family now. She has given me endless emotional support and I am so grateful. Yet the past few weeks I have noticed her backing off slightly. I asked her about it and admitted she was in love with me.
I was and am very shocked. I don't see her like that at all and had no idea she felt like this about me. I now feel awful in that I can't reciprocate her feelings as although I care as a friend I am definitely not attracted to her. I confided in a friend who said I was mad. She is 32, slim, single, no kids and is a very kind and nurturing person. But I have always seen her as a kid sister especially as she's tiny and looks so young. I know there is no point in asking but can this friendship ever be saved what with what I know now? |
Anonymous
| No. Give her space. Maybe in a few years. |
Anonymous
| moron |
Anonymous
| Establish a sugar daddy relationship. Put expectations and terms out on the table. She can love you all she wants, you can lean on her/in her. Win Win |
Anonymous
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How many more times can you reference her size?
Leave her a,one. |
Anonymous
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Ouch. Poor girl.
No. This friendship cannot work now. |
Anonymous
2 more times, easy. |
Anonymous
| Pro tip: adult women don't want to become your little sister. |
Anonymous
But no mention of thigh gap. Weird. 
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Anonymous
Omg. Nailed it. You just summed up my miserable 20s. |
Anonymous
| are you rich? |
Anonymous
then quit chasing after "successful" men twice your age. |
Anonymous
| Maybe he’s not attracted to petite women. I’m the shortest woman DH has ever been with. The others were Amazons! |
Anonymous
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Give her some space and then try not to be weird you spend time together again. It can be okay.
Getting a girlfriend could help the situation because you are now "off" the market, and after the initial sting of why her and not me, she can stop fantasizing and just be your friend or hurt it because she will be jealous. Just something else to consider. |
Anonymous
| You are crazy OP. Talk about a wasted opportunity! |