Are men with ED still interested in sex?

[Anonymous]

Sorry if it is a silly question. Looking for personal experiences - how your DH handles ED, or doesn't.

[Anonymous]

He is interested but it makes him super insecure and ashamed (the worst thing a man can feel). Viagra and cialis help but I think the fear is always in his mind.

[Anonymous]

Mine says he is. It makes me feel guilty, though, like he isn't "getting" anything out of it, though he assures me that's not the case.

[Anonymous]

My XH was. The result was he’d insist on a BJ to get things rolling and then, after all my effort, come quickly and become too exhausted to do anything for me.

[Anonymous]

It took a while for him to accept that he was "losing it" it but there were physical reasons behind it and once he visited a urologist and realized what it was he was fine and the meds really worked. Almost too well but I'm not complaining. When he was "losing it" I thought I might be part of the problem as I'm no spring chicken so it was a relief to me as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It took a while for him to accept that he was "losing it" it but there were physical reasons behind it and once he visited a urologist and realized what it was he was fine and the meds really worked. Almost too well but I'm not complaining. When he was "losing it" I thought I might be part of the problem as I'm no spring chicken so it was a relief to me as well.

What were the signs? I think my DH might need help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry if it is a silly question. Looking for personal experiences - how your DH handles ED, or doesn't.

DH sucked it up and talked to his doctor. He got some pills and hormone replacement. Sex is better than ever. If your partner is too embarrassed to see a doctor, you should encourage him to do it anyway.

[Anonymous]

What age? No sign of ed from my DH yet, but he's nearing 50, so just wondering

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry if it is a silly question. Looking for personal experiences - how your DH handles ED, or doesn't.

DH sucked it up and talked to his doctor. He got some pills and hormone replacement. Sex is better than ever. If your partner is too embarrassed to see a doctor, you should encourage him to do it anyway.

How old ? What hormones ? Did it make a big difference ?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It took a while for him to accept that he was "losing it" it but there were physical reasons behind it and once he visited a urologist and realized what it was he was fine and the meds really worked. Almost too well but I'm not complaining. When he was "losing it" I thought I might be part of the problem as I'm no spring chicken so it was a relief to me as well.

What were the signs? I think my DH might need help.

He would have a difficult time getting an erection and maintaining it despite our normal foreplay stuff. He cut out alcohol and he's alway been in good shape so something was wrong. Business stress was intense but normal and we were very happy together. He was on BP and cholesterol meds which didn't help and I wanted the problem solved as much as he did which helped.

[Anonymous]

Plato said one of the perks of growing old is you become less of a slave to passion. It's true. If I can't get it up, I am not likely to be interested in sex.

[Anonymous]

Yes, unfortunately they do. It just turns into this long drawn out mission to get him up and then quickly get it in before it goes limp again only for it to go limp anyway and then having to start all over. The entire evening is centered around his dick.

[Anonymous]

Guy here: Yes, very much so.

I suspect some try to avoid sex to avoid the embarrasment though. Sex is really important for a relationship in my opinion. Not just sex, but good sex. It helps keep a couple connected.

If your dh is having issues, have him ask his doc refer him to a urologist. Urologists have these conversations and solve these problems every day. It may be a little awkward for him but certainly no more awkward than what women go through with an annual wellness check.

The last thing I’ll say is that sex can be BETTER once the issues are addressed. Sort out any ED and PE issues and you’ll both have a lot more fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It took a while for him to accept that he was "losing it" it but there were physical reasons behind it and once he visited a urologist and realized what it was he was fine and the meds really worked. Almost too well but I'm not complaining. When he was "losing it" I thought I might be part of the problem as I'm no spring chicken so it was a relief to me as well.

This.

The meds seemed to work almost too well. He was noticebly larger and harder than he had ever been. He had more stamina too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It took a while for him to accept that he was "losing it" it but there were physical reasons behind it and once he visited a urologist and realized what it was he was fine and the meds really worked. Almost too well but I'm not complaining. When he was "losing it" I thought I might be part of the problem as I'm no spring chicken so it was a relief to me as well.

This.

The meds seemed to work almost too well. He was noticebly larger and harder than he had ever been. He had more stamina too.

Same here - it felt like I was with a different man which was actually fun! He likes it too and refers to it as his WMD. Men should realize that Cialis can solve a problem plus have an added benefit. Now I know how porn stars can stay erect for so long.