Where can I find divorced dads other than online?

[Anonymous]

I'm a divorced mom and I'm looking for something very specific. A relationship in which:

1) we get together one or two nights a week for dinner (either I cook or we go out) and sex
2) stay the night or not
3) committed and monogamous, but no marriage until kids are grown, if ever

Where do I find nice divorced dads who are looking for safe fun?

[Anonymous]

This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

Right! Men hate sex and home cooked meals with no commitments.

[gentry]

Or you could be the unicorn to a happily married and drama free couple with a young family.

Just saying!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

Right! Men hate sex and home cooked meals with no commitments.

A much older single guy with no kids who wants to stay single might like this. OP should go for a never married man in his mid-50s. A decently attractive and engaged father isn’t.

[Anonymous]

All divorced dads just want to get remarried?

[Anonymous]

I think you’ll have a hard time finding that with monogamy. That’s more a casual FWB type of thing with regularity.

You could totally be a unicorn for me and DH. You’d cook twice a week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

Nope nope nope. I'm soon going to be a divorced dad and it sounds ideal.

I'm mostly at the gym and kid activities now, I haven't even thought about socializing. So where does one meet divorced moms, anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

Nope nope nope. I'm soon going to be a divorced dad and it sounds ideal.

I'm mostly at the gym and kid activities now, I haven't even thought about socializing. So where does one meet divorced moms, anyway?

You two should hook up IRL and let us know how well this arrangement works. Please note that you are not yet out of the fire. A year or two from now, you may look askance at this offer.

[Anonymous]

What does it mean to be a unicorn to a couple? Does that mean a threesome?

[Anonymous]

Since divorced guys aren't likely to go for it, maybe just stick to married men?

[Anonymous]

Good grief who appointed these PP REPS FOR THE UNIVERSE OF DIVORCED DADS. It's ridiculous. There is a pot for every kettle. Try the gyms and ask friends who they know in their networks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

Right! Men hate sex and home cooked meals with no commitments.

A much older single guy with no kids who wants to stay single might like this. OP should go for a never married man in his mid-50s. A decently attractive and engaged father isn’t.

I'm a 40 yr old divorced mom, and would it be that the man only spends the night when the kids are not home? I'm just divorced and trying to figure out the logistics of dating. I can almost imagine but being being alone until college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

Right! Men hate sex and home cooked meals with no commitments.

A much older single guy with no kids who wants to stay single might like this. OP should go for a never married man in his mid-50s. A decently attractive and engaged father isn’t.

I'm a 40 yr old divorced mom, and would it be that the man only spends the night when the kids are not home? I'm just divorced and trying to figure out the logistics of dating. I can almost imagine but being being alone until college.

If her only non-kid night doesn’t sync with yours, would you be willing to ask your coparent to switch your children’s schedule so you can get some? Or are you comfortable with being with a woman who would switch her visitation schedule so she can cook you dinner and have sex? What happens when one person is ready to move on? Do you ask to switch the schedule again if a new partner requires it?

[Anonymous]

I have this now. We are in love. But with our other schedules and commitments we won’t get married anytime soon. We are monogamous and stay in touch many times every day.

I met her at children’s activities.