upcoming exam and birthday party

[Anonymous]

my kid has an upcoming final exam in 4 days (High school science paper).
Has not reviewed for the exam past 3 days this weekend as there was another school program out of town.
This has been a tough subject in high school so far (C grade in that subject).

kid wants to attend a friend's birthday party later in the evening today.
This will take up a good 4 to 4.5 hours including the commute.
I told the kid to not attend the birthday party and apologize to friend and use that time for reviewing for the exam.

My kid is really grumpy about skipping friend's birthday party. Going late and coming back early option is also received with a lot of crankiness.
DH is fine if kid goes to the birthday and comes back and studies.
If the kid is tired by the end of the day, the the review for exam will not be completed.

But both DH and C are not realizing the time that will be lost in the process and there is no other chance recover the grade in this subject.
(Kid wants to go into STEM major in college)

How to deal with this situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my kid has an upcoming final exam in 4 days (High school science paper).
Has not reviewed for the exam past 3 days this weekend as there was another school program out of town.
This has been a tough subject in high school so far (C grade in that subject).

kid wants to attend a friend's birthday party later in the evening today.
This will take up a good 4 to 4.5 hours including the commute.
I told the kid to not attend the birthday party and apologize to friend and use that time for reviewing for the exam.

My kid is really grumpy about skipping friend's birthday party. Going late and coming back early option is also received with a lot of crankiness.
DH is fine if kid goes to the birthday and comes back and studies.
If the kid is tired by the end of the day, the the review for exam will not be completed.

But both DH and C are not realizing the time that will be lost in the process and there is no other chance recover the grade in this subject.
(Kid wants to go into STEM major in college)

How to deal with this situation?

No party. Your DC has a C, which should have been addressed earlier. As the C wasn't addressed esrlier, now it's crunch time. DH and DC need to step up and prioritize.

[Anonymous]

Let the kid go to the party. He didn’t study ahead of time and now wants to go out with his friends to celebrate. This is something he already made a commitment to go to. If he doesn’t do well it is natural consequences. He’s in high schcool and you shouldn’t be micromanaging his time.

Actually, I’d tell him he had to go to the party if he wanted to skip it. He said he would and now he should not cancel because he didn’t plan ahead.

I’m a mom and a high school teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let the kid go to the party. He didn’t study ahead of time and now wants to go out with his friends to celebrate. This is something he already made a commitment to go to. If he doesn’t do well it is natural consequences. He’s in high schcool and you shouldn’t be micromanaging his time.

Actually, I’d tell him he had to go to the party if he wanted to skip it. He said he would and now he should not cancel because he didn’t plan ahead.

I’m a mom and a high school teacher.

Wow. Why do kids do drugs and skip school when they can have a teacher like you?!

No party.

[Anonymous]

No party.

[Anonymous]

The natural consequences are, a C grade and no studying in advance = no party.

[Anonymous]

I'm with the no party crowd, but

A) has your kid worked hard all year?

B) is there anything that can happen on this exam to change the outcome?

If both are yes, maybe I'd consider it.

[Anonymous]

No party. Kid probably won’t study anyway, but at least you made sure the opportunity existed.

[Anonymous]

Is the grade on whatever this exam is going to actually bring up the grade on the transcript? If so, it is worth studying. If not, backing out kast minute is probably the greater transgression.