What if he refuses to sign?

[Anonymous]

I told DH I wanted a divorce. I drafted and signed a petition for divorce, signed a quit claim deed reliquinshing my interest in our house.

I didn’t ask for anything, spousal support, etc. He can keep the furniture if he wants I don’t care. I don’t want anything.

What if he doesn’t sign the papers?

[Anonymous]

You need an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Have him served with official divorce papers and proceed with dissolution. As long as you don't live in a state that requires one year of separation and he doesn't respond you should be divorced within 30-60 days. Usually he has 20 days from being notified to file a complaint.

[Anonymous]

Are you the person who posted before and was told not to be an idiot about the finances? Signing a quit claim and not asking for your fair share is beyond stupid.

[Anonymous]

Signing a quit claim deed doesn’t get your name off mortgage knucklehead.

[Anonymous]

You own half the marriage debt and liabilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Signing a quit claim deed doesn’t get your name off mortgage knucklehead.

Why do you assume her name is on the mortgage? My ex's name wasn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You own half the marriage debt and liabilities.

Just because you ‘give’ him the furniture doesn’t mean that he’s not going to legally require you to pay the bills, including for the house that you are no longer living in.

[Anonymous]

If he doesn't sign, you will have him served, go to court and get divorced the way most people do. I think that he isn't signing because you have made it clear that you are desperate to get the divorce done quickly and he believes that if he holds out for a bit, you will offer him an even better deal. Or he believes that he will do better in court, who knows?

[Anonymous]

You REALLY need a good lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Would he stand to get spousal support from you if this went through traditional means? He’s holding out to make sure he comes out as far ahead as possible.

[Anonymous]

I make less money than him, have more debt. I have asked that all my prior and current debt have him absolved from any responsibility. I’ve asked for no portion of his retirement savings or health benefits.

There’s very little he could gain from me. He makes more money and is better off financially. The house is in our name, but his name is on the mortgage and any credit cards.

I honestly don’t know what he could ask for? If my name is not on the mortgage and I issue him a quit claim deed, how could he ask me to share in utilities if I’m no longer living there? That seems ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Oh my goodness, you went and did it.

OP, do you have a brain tumor?

We all specifically told you not to.

[Anonymous]

No, I haven’t posted before.

There’s NOTHING to gain. We’ve been married a year. Bought the house 6 months ago. There’s no equity in the home. I have no interest in his retirement account considering he just started contributing to a 401k in his 30’s. I’m 29 and have plenty of time left to start over and I have no interest in holding him financially hostage EVEN IF there was something to gain. Both our vehicles were bought and financed prior to marriage. We don’t have any joint assets aside from the house which again has no equity in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I haven’t posted before.

There’s NOTHING to gain. We’ve been married a year. Bought the house 6 months ago. There’s no equity in the home. I have no interest in his retirement account considering he just started contributing to a 401k in his 30’s. I’m 29 and have plenty of time left to start over and I have no interest in holding him financially hostage EVEN IF there was something to gain. Both our vehicles were bought and financed prior to marriage. We don’t have any joint assets aside from the house which again has no equity in it.

You need an attorney. When you have an asset together, you can't just stomp your feet and say, I don't wanna do this anymore. There may not be equity in the home but it doesn't mean you don't have to deal with it!