Sick of having sex with husband already.

[Anonymous]

My cycle is all over the map and before I invest in one of those crazy fertility predictors, we are trying to "cover the spread" as it were, and have sex for about 10 days straight. We are three days in and already sick of it!!! Not a good sign. I am trying to keep a sense of humor, but it ain't pretty...

Just had to put it out there to the blogosphere, because who else can I tell??

[Anonymous]

When I was trying, my OB suggested every other day on days 10-20 of my cycle. I have a very regular 26-29 day cycle, though. I would highly recommend the ClearBlue Easy Digital Fertility Monitor. It is pricey but well worth it.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Does that monitor predict when you are fertile rather than just ovulating?

[Anonymous]

The Fertility Monitor tells you when you have low, high, and peak fertility. I would typically get about 4-5 days of "high fertility" and then two days of peak fertility, which are supposed to be the days up to and including ovulation. It varies from person to person, but generally it gives you about a week of high/peak fertility, so you have a good idea of when you are most fertile.

[Anonymous]

OP, BMS can do a number on your relationship, while ttc I longed for that passion my husband had for me in the beginning of our relationship. TTC really killed it, but we worked hard to get that intimacy back, and now we have to remeber to lock the door so our twins don't walk in on us. Good luck and if your cycles are really irregular (>35 days) then you may need to check for PCOS with your OB/GYN.

[Anonymous]

OP here, thanks for the info guys.

My cycles are between 28 and 33 days (well, I only had one month of 33 days, the rest are 28) Should I go by a 28 days calendar?

I hate this shit...

[Anonymous]

My up to this point reluctant husband has finally said we are really trying. Of course, now, I don't want to be so obvious and have sex everyday. I am just hoping for every other day.

[Anonymous]

I know, 11:22! It is SO like, "alright, lay down, here we go..." Not a lot of passion happening...sucks.

[Anonymous]

Can I just say thank you for saying what I have been thinking! This every day or every other day business is for the freaking birds. I feel like a freaking recepticle, not to mention that the 30 minutes I've been told I need to have my rear end in the air afterwards isn't all that comfortable. He rolls over and starts snoring immediately and I'm trying to keep everything lifted and prevent everything from leaking out, etc. Also, if anyone can suggest where I can pick up an extra ounce or two of passion I'd really appreciate it!

[Anonymous]

LOL. Been there. Done that.

[Anonymous]

omg seriously!
I always thought trying to get pregnant would be all sexy and fun and exciting.
i'm sure it is for some or even many (and luckily my dh still thinks so) but after nine months of trying my libido is sure starting to take a dive.

[Anonymous]

Yep, it was kind of fun for the first two months or so. Now at month nine, it just sucks. It's a total chore to HAVE to do it on a specific day, and then to feel like "why am I even bothering sticking to this stupid schedule, it's not going to work anyway." Often I just want it to be over as soon as possible so I can go to sleep!

[Anonymous]

My dh and I joke about how we did not have fun "making" our kids. You're not a bad wife to feel this way. Also, my RE said every day or every other day, didnt' make a difference to him. Ask your dr.

[Anonymous]

Managed to get dh into the sack twice last week. OPK went + the morning after our last dance. I just couldn't find a way to get my tired bod to seduce him again after the OPK went +. And we are only on month 2 of trying. Here's to 2 weeks of wondering if those two times were enough.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it does get really old really fast. We found the morning to be best for workhorse sex, since you're half asleep anyway and don't really mind the lack of hot, fiery passion. We just got a fertility monitor and the first time I got the little smiley face we went at it like we haven't since college, so that's another point in its favor .