My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken

[Anonymous]

And he left the house all over something minor I said that made him angry. I’m so sad right now and don’t know what to do.

[Anonymous]

First step is medical care

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP. Medical care for yourself, and treatment for your son immediately. If he won’t go into therapy you’ll need to think about what you’ll do next.

[Anonymous]

Go get medical attention right now. Please do not minimize this. Who can you call? Do you have a spouse? Family member or close friend? Call them to go with you.

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP.
Please get medical care for you and therapy for him. Make him sign a behavior contract within the next 24 hours.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry. Please go get medical care and the go from there. Is there someone he can stay with tonight?

[Anonymous]

Is the bone straight or does the arm veer into weird angles? If so, not an emergency. I would wait a bit.

Take a deep breath or 100, some Advil and think about how to defuse this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the bone straight or does the arm veer into weird angles? If so, not an emergency. I would wait a bit.

Take a deep breath or 100, some Advil and think about how to defuse this.

Horrible advice. You cannot tell if an arm is broken simply by looking at it.

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone apologizing? Apparently the first step is to post here.

[Anonymous]

I’d call the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d call the police.

Dumb dumb.

[Anonymous]

Lock him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the bone straight or does the arm veer into weird angles? If so, not an emergency. I would wait a bit.

Take a deep breath or 100, some Advil and think about how to defuse this.

+1
If you truly have a broken arm you would be in so much pain that you wouldn't be typing on DCUM. You probably have a really bad bruise or even a hairline fracture....neither of which is urgent. Doctors can't do anything about it except prescribe you extra strength tylenol. Your body heals these types of injuries on it's own.

I'm sorry about your son. Without context, it's hard to give you good advice. You obviously said something that triggered him. Maybe he felt like you were piling it on. Maybe it was a power struggle between the two of you that went too far?

Was the hitting with this object intentional or did it just richocete or your son meant to throw it somewhere else, but it hit you instead? I'm not condoning it, just trying to put the pieces together.

[Anonymous]

Oh, wow. I'm sorry this happened to you, OP.

You do need to get medical care either through a clinic or the emergency room. They most likely will need to x-ray your arm to see if you have a break or a fracture. When you are there they will ask you how it happened. Please be honest with your caregivers. It may actually be a benefit to you because the medical personnel may have resources for you that you might not be able to access on your own for either you or your son.

In the meantime, is there another adult who can help you locate your son and be with you when your son returns, and to help keep you safe at that time? Is this the first time that something like this has occurred? You may need to get some resources to help you. Like your son's pediatrician or your doctor or a therapist. If you don't have any of those then you can call the Boys Town Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. The people who answer the phone are BT counselors trained to help children and families in urgent situations. They at least can help you with advice about how to proceed with your son so that you and he can resolve the issues that are occurring and help both of you remain safe.

Hugs. Now go to the doctor and get that arm looked at!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d call the police.

Dumb dumb.

Why? The little shit needs to be scared straight. Obviously, he isn't afraid of mom.