My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, wow. I'm sorry this happened to you, OP.

You do need to get medical care either through a clinic or the emergency room. They most likely will need to x-ray your arm to see if you have a break or a fracture. When you are there they will ask you how it happened. Please be honest with your caregivers. It may actually be a benefit to you because the medical personnel may have resources for you that you might not be able to access on your own for either you or your son.

In the meantime, is there another adult who can help you locate your son and be with you when your son returns, and to help keep you safe at that time? Is this the first time that something like this has occurred? You may need to get some resources to help you. Like your son's pediatrician or your doctor or a therapist. If you don't have any of those then you can call the Boys Town Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. The people who answer the phone are BT counselors trained to help children and families in urgent situations. They at least can help you with advice about how to proceed with your son so that you and he can resolve the issues that are occurring and help both of you remain safe.

Hugs. Now go to the doctor and get that arm looked at!!!

Oh, and btw, it certainly is possible to function with a broken arm. I myself have walked and run miles with a fractured leg. So please do not do as suggested by someone above and ignore the injury. Get it looked at today!

[Anonymous]

Pp here who advised waiting— I didn’t tell her to ignore it, I advised she didn’t need to freak out. I actually have a probable fractured foot right now but am waiting and seeing myself. If it is hairline or a bone bruise, there is no need to rush off to the Emergency Room. I will go to Urgent Care at 8 am when there isn’t a line to see about mine. I have done this several times and never disadvantaged by waiting for broken ribs, fingers, toes and bone bruises.

A compound fracture is obviously more serious and she should go right away and get it set, as I indicated.

I personally would want to keep this private and not involve the police as will be likely if she goes to ER.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here who advised waiting— I didn’t tell her to ignore it, I advised she didn’t need to freak out. I actually have a probable fractured foot right now but am waiting and seeing myself. If it is hairline or a bone bruise, there is no need to rush off to the Emergency Room. I will go to Urgent Care at 8 am when there isn’t a line to see about mine. I have done this several times and never disadvantaged by waiting for broken ribs, fingers, toes and bone bruises.

A compound fracture is obviously more serious and she should go right away and get it set, as I indicated.

I personally would want to keep this private and not involve the police as will be likely if she goes to ER.

So next time he really hurts her? He needs to feel the consequences of his actions.

[Anonymous]

How old is your teen? What obligation does ER have to report injury to police?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here who advised waiting— I didn’t tell her to ignore it, I advised she didn’t need to freak out. I actually have a probable fractured foot right now but am waiting and seeing myself. If it is hairline or a bone bruise, there is no need to rush off to the Emergency Room. I will go to Urgent Care at 8 am when there isn’t a line to see about mine. I have done this several times and never disadvantaged by waiting for broken ribs, fingers, toes and bone bruises.

A compound fracture is obviously more serious and she should go right away and get it set, as I indicated.

I personally would want to keep this private and not involve the police as will be likely if she goes to ER.

Yikes, I don't think you understand. Going to ER or to a clinic doesn't mean the police become automatically involved. And even if they were under some remote chance then OP is not obligated to file a report. But she definitely needs to get care and, yes, frankly, to get it documented. It sounds like the child is having some issues and needs help. Documenting this assault through medical records and treatment will help OP not hurt her.

[Anonymous]

Wow, just wow.

[Anonymous]

The police make things worse more often than not.
Last resort.

[Anonymous]

Ignoring what happened is NOT in the boy's best interest. OP needs to get help for her son (and for herself). The best way to do that is for 1) OP to receive medical care for her injury, and 2) for OP to get treatment for her son through counseling and/or a therapist. The boy's actions are a warning signal that the son needs help and fast. If we have learned anything from recent events here in our area and in other areas, it is that OP cannot afford to ignore her son's cry for help. Small acts of violence usually lead to larger aggressions and acts.

[Anonymous]

Is your DS in any kind of treatment? He is a danger to you which escalates the level of care he needs.

[Anonymous]

Is this a one-off or is he frequently violent? The level of escalation depends on that answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the bone straight or does the arm veer into weird angles? If so, not an emergency. I would wait a bit.

Take a deep breath or 100, some Advil and think about how to defuse this.

WTH?! OP do not listen to this whack job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here who advised waiting— I didn’t tell her to ignore it, I advised she didn’t need to freak out. I actually have a probable fractured foot right now but am waiting and seeing myself. If it is hairline or a bone bruise, there is no need to rush off to the Emergency Room. I will go to Urgent Care at 8 am when there isn’t a line to see about mine. I have done this several times and never disadvantaged by waiting for broken ribs, fingers, toes and bone bruises.

A compound fracture is obviously more serious and she should go right away and get it set, as I indicated.

I personally would want to keep this private and not involve the police as will be likely if she goes to ER.

Is your next post going to blame OP and tell her she deserved it?

[Anonymous]

My son became violent toward me last year. Not nearly so bad as your situation but it was a huge behavioral change. I took him to the ER. He was admitted to a treatment program. It was one of the best things I did for him.

[Anonymous]

OP? Come on - are you okay? Please let us know.

[Anonymous]

You need to have your arm checked. When my son broke his, he was talking and laughing, and the doctor was shocked that it was broken in two places (one break was all the way through both bones). He wasn't in any pain. He was 10. As far as your son is concerned, I have no idea what to tell you because my sons have never been violent with anyone. If he's an adult, call the police. That's what I would do. It's a domestic.