| What advice could you give to me as a sahm who doesn't want to be friends with all the other moms and socialize in that way. How do I talk to them or not talk to them to just avoid the drama. I don't have the energy for any negative drama. TIA. |
| I keep my distance, I don't add then to my social media, I give them my junk email address, and keep conversations to a bare minimum, usually consisting of hi, how are you? and that's it. I'm nice to them and don't socialize. I attend all school functions, field trips, and volunteer every week and I haven't had any issues. |
| If you don't want to be friends with them, then just don't talk to them. Right now you're just creating, wait for it, negative drama. |
This is what I'm doing. Thanks. |
+1 |
| My solution is to not have any friends currently, I guess. I’m letting the other drama free moms find me. |
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Don't get into their conversations. But, don't be so out that you seem conceited or labeled as unfriendly. If you are somehow dragged into it, just say, really, wow, oh man. Don't give personal opinions. The moms like to drag the opinion out of you. Keep smiling and say hi, how's it going, great, good, and keep walking.
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How to not be friends with people? Just don't be friends with them. Right? What am I missing? |
Then why are on DCUM? |
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Why are you on DCUM? |
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1) Don't refer to yourself as "mama."
2) Don't refer to all social interactions and relationships as "drama." |
| Don't worry OP. I don't think any of them will be seeking you out for friendships. |
+1. I find people who go out of their way to talk about how drama-free they are, are really actually not (at least subconsciously). Otherwise, why are you so preoccupied with it? |
| Well, the drama mommas have to have someone to talk about. OP, you fit the role perfectly. I just hope you don't ever need their help for anything. |