drama free mama

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What advice could you give to me as a sahm who doesn't want to be friends with all the other moms and socialize in that way. How do I talk to them or not talk to them to just avoid the drama. I don't have the energy for any negative drama. TIA.

How to not be friends with people? Just don't be friends with them. Right? What am I missing?

+1. I find people who go out of their way to talk about how drama-free they are, are really actually not (at least subconsciously). Otherwise, why are you so preoccupied with it?

This. I find that the people who are asocial because they “hate drama” are the ones who create drama by interpreting benign social interactions as ill-willed. I think usually they just have poor social skills.

I like socializing and on the rare occasion there is drama, I just ignore it.

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Nailed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's very easy to ignore drama. Just be polite and don't engage. I have never had anyone come up to me and try to involve me in their drama. I'm well-known at my children's school, and well-respected, partly because I am friendly but do not engage in gossip, drama, or in anything else that might cause a rift. Life is easy to drift through without being drawn into the middle of everything if you know how to play the game.

HAHAHAHAHA. Okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What advice could you give to me as a sahm who doesn't want to be friends with all the other moms and socialize in that way. How do I talk to them or not talk to them to just avoid the drama. I don't have the energy for any negative drama. TIA.

How to not be friends with people? Just don't be friends with them. Right? What am I missing?

+1. I find people who go out of their way to talk about how drama-free they are, are really actually not (at least subconsciously). Otherwise, why are you so preoccupied with it?

Same experience here. And "negative drama" usually just means that no one is ever supposed to call them on their crap, or make any demands of them, or express negative feelings, or disagree. Sometimes having friends means dealing with "drama." If a particular person is always spoiling for a fight or looking for offense, then I'm just not friends with that person.

If you don't want to socialize with the other moms in your neighborhood, then just don't socialize with them. Be polite, but never accept invitations or invite them to do anything with you.

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This. Maybe it's you, OP.