Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, what a total shit-wreck this thread turned into.

Because folks are taking offense rather than just adding to and/or moving along. Stuff has been said here that applies to me, but I haven't found the need to "how dare you" anyone.

C'mon, the bird hater really needed to be schooled.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, what a total shit-wreck this thread turned into.

Because folks are taking offense rather than just adding to and/or moving along. Stuff has been said here that applies to me, but I haven't found the need to "how dare you" anyone.

Oh yeah, I completely believe that the OP was not trolling by starting a post about "things I oppose, but don't say out loud" and include such mundane, non-controversial topics as adoption & interracial marriage.

OP here. Not trolling. Just was generally interested in knowing some of the things folks wouldn'tt "cop to" to friends and family.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, what a total shit-wreck this thread turned into.

Because folks are taking offense rather than just adding to and/or moving along. Stuff has been said here that applies to me, but I haven't found the need to "how dare you" anyone.

Oh yeah, I completely believe that the OP was not trolling by starting a post about "things I oppose, but don't say out loud" and include such mundane, non-controversial topics as adoption & interracial marriage.

Exactly. This thread could have been titled "unleash all of the ugliness inside you and demonstrate what a small-minded person you are."

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Anonymous wrote:Women who wear make up. It's perpetuating a view of women that I find demeaning. After all the whole point of make up is to make a woman look like she is constantly sexually aroused. Ugh.

This is true. The reason make up 'works' to make a woman appear "attractive" is because it mimics the appearance of a young, fertile and sexually aroused woman who is ready for action. Ditto high heels. Think about the word "attractive". It's become the norm so nobody thinks about it anymore, but a hundred years ago, only whores and actresses wore make up.

I never wear heels because they hurt. But what does that have to do with being aroused and ready for action? Do you grow taller when you are horny?

Maybe something to do with the toe curling and pointing of feet that many women naturally exhibit during orgasm.

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Anonymous wrote:I secretly oppose the fundraising for the Boston marathon victims. If they don't have insurance, that's one thing. But claiming that they need half a million dollars to pay medical bills and therapy bills and prosthetics, etc. Some of these folks don't even have kids or a family to support. I think it preys on people's vulnerabilities to ask for money at a time like that when most of those receiving the $ have medical insurance and likely disability, too. I don't see those same donors throwing fundraisers for families who they *know personally* who have a child born with special needs and will need lifelong care. Those families are usually lucky if they get a meal train.

I agree with you and the PP regarding knee-jerk fundraising for people who don't really need the money.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP you quoted. I haven't previously been bashing IVF and I don't have any weird ideas that women who can't get pregnant shouldn't because of evolution. I agree with you that adoption comes with its own issues and that it is not for everyone. What about people who buy a donor egg, donor sperm, and hire a surrogate? At that point, wouldn't it be better to just adopt a kid?

I haven't been contributing to this conversation, but re: what you said about donor egg/sperm/uterus, yes, at that point, I think ART is going too far. At that point, it becomes manufacturing a specific child - why did you choose THOSE eggs and sperm? To get a baby that looked a particular way? (Obvious rhetorical question)

You chose your spouse because, presumably, he or she looked a certan way and had certain characteristics.

But more importantly, it's obvsious you're totally ignorant about how IVF / ART works (not surprising, since most of the anti IVF people seem ignorant on many levels). Most people choose sperm and/or eggs that most closely resemble THEM so that they won't have to face the contant judgment from people like you when their child looks totally different than either their mom and/or dad.

I'm actually not totally ignorant of how it works, and am perfectly aware that people choose characteristics that look like them/that they find desirable. I'm not suggesting that there's anything wrong with that. I also think it's totally fine if you need a little bit of help from science at some point during the process, in the same way I think it's totally fine if you need a little help from science to give birth to a baby or feed a baby or whatever else. The part where I become judgy is when you need a lot of help from science with the whole process. If you're not using your or your partner's eggs, your or your partner's sperm or your or your partner's body to grow the child in question, why not just adopt? I'm happy for anyone who gets to raise a child they want, but I would imagine the "but sometimes ART is much cheaper than adoption" argument falls a bit flat when you're talking about donor eggs/sperm/uterus.

I'm genuinely curious why you think that it's a good idea to use donor sperm AND eggs AND a surrogate.

How many people do donor eggs and donor sperm and use a surrogate? I don't know of a single example.
You don't think anyone would share their story with someone as ignorant as you, do you?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm opposed to giving up all your own interests and aspirations and dreams just because you have kids.

Also opposed to getting a person to marry you and them turning into a fat, sexless ass who thinks your spouse only exists to help with the kids and bring in money. Goes for BOTH sexes.

Your interests and aspirations and dreams should always come after your children's interests, aspirations and dreams. And the primary job of both parents is to care for the children and bring in money for that purpose. How they choose to divide the jobs is up to them. Lots of people do gain weight because they put their children first and when children are young, there is little time for doing your own thing.

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I'm against non profits that try to educate people on a subject. Like in college, how all of the clubs were about educated the already knowledgeable, liberal student body about orphans in Africa or something. That's like covering a bullet wound with a Snickers wrapper. I'm also against non profits that are just putting bandaids on a much bigger problem. Yes, it's very nice that 20 six year olds in Kenya now know how to read. Could that money have been better spent on farm equipment so that those kids' families could feed themselves?

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Anonymous wrote:Women who wear make up. It's perpetuating a view of women that I find demeaning. After all the whole point of make up is to make a woman look like she is constantly sexually aroused. Ugh.

This is true. The reason make up 'works' to make a woman appear "attractive" is because it mimics the appearance of a young, fertile and sexually aroused woman who is ready for action. Ditto high heels. Think about the word "attractive". It's become the norm so nobody thinks about it anymore, but a hundred years ago, only whores and actresses wore make up.

I never wear heels because they hurt. But what does that have to do with being aroused and ready for action? Do you grow taller when you are horny?

Maybe something to do with the toe curling and pointing of feet that many women naturally exhibit during orgasm.

Because you can SEE my toes curling inside my shoes? This has to be one of the more stupid things I've heard in a while.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm opposed to the "don't let your cat be an outdoor cat, because think of the birds!" brigade.

Hell, if anything, that's a motivation for me to get a bunch of cats and make them outdoor cats - and not wear a bell.

Birds are creepy animals. Fuck their constant side eye and 4am chirping.

+1000. I cannot beleive people actually say that about cats! I am not crazy about cats or birds.

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People who cut in traffic lines--for example, skipping to the front of the line when there's a whole line of cars waiting to exit a highway.

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Anonymous wrote:Women who wear make up. It's perpetuating a view of women that I find demeaning. After all the whole point of make up is to make a woman look like she is constantly sexually aroused. Ugh.

This is true. The reason make up 'works' to make a woman appear "attractive" is because it mimics the appearance of a young, fertile and sexually aroused woman who is ready for action. Ditto high heels. Think about the word "attractive". It's become the norm so nobody thinks about it anymore, but a hundred years ago, only whores and actresses wore make up.

I never wear heels because they hurt. But what does that have to do with being aroused and ready for action? Do you grow taller when you are horny?

Maybe something to do with the toe curling and pointing of feet that many women naturally exhibit during orgasm.

High heels elevate the buttocks by about 30 degrees and exaggerate the sex specific traits of a woman's gait. Also, they make it difficult for a woman to run (away).

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Anonymous wrote:Women who wear make up. It's perpetuating a view of women that I find demeaning. After all the whole point of make up is to make a woman look like she is constantly sexually aroused. Ugh.

This is true. The reason make up 'works' to make a woman appear "attractive" is because it mimics the appearance of a young, fertile and sexually aroused woman who is ready for action. Ditto high heels. Think about the word "attractive". It's become the norm so nobody thinks about it anymore, but a hundred years ago, only whores and actresses wore make up.

I never wear heels because they hurt. But what does that have to do with being aroused and ready for action? Do you grow taller when you are horny?

Maybe something to do with the toe curling and pointing of feet that many women naturally exhibit during orgasm.

Because you can SEE my toes curling inside my shoes? This has to be one of the more stupid things I've heard in a while.

Well that's actually not why. It's because heels lengthen the legs and lift the butt. They're not comfortable but they're almost universally flattering.

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I am pro-life for myself and pro-choice for everyone else. To me it makes sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I am pro-life for myself and pro-choice for everyone else. To me it makes sense.

Why do you have to hide this? This is how I feel and I will tell anyone.