Not invited to BIL 40th

[Anonymous]

We have a strained but cordial relationship with Dhs brother and his family. I dont think they like me particularly and we are not close but do meet at family get togethers and send xmas presents. BIl is turning 40 and they sent out an evite for a party but only to DHs email and not mine. DH is pretty angry and we both feel this was a deliberate snub. DH has not replied to the invite. What would you do. Continue to ignore?

[Anonymous]

That's not how evite works. It's not like an envelope that only has DH's name. I often invite an entire family but use only one email address, or it's hard to keep track of who has or hasn't rsvp'ed. DH should RSVP for both of you.

[Anonymous]

Did other couples get invitations for each of them? I always send it to one person in the family.

[Anonymous]

Why would you get offended or thing that you are not invited?

My husband and I both get evites that go to one but not the other. Most people do not send a separate evite to both the husband and wife.

Why are you inviting and creating drama?

[Anonymous]

You and your DH seem to enjoy creating drama and overreacting. No wonder your BIL isn't a fan of yours!

[Anonymous]

Good grief. That's not how evites work. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's not how evite works. It's not like an envelope that only has DH's name. I often invite an entire family but use only one email address, or it's hard to keep track of who has or hasn't rsvp'ed. DH should RSVP for both of you.

This. You're getting mad over nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you get offended or thing that you are not invited?

My husband and I both get evites that go to one but not the other. Most people do not send a separate evite to both the husband and wife.

Why are you inviting and creating drama?

Yep this, sounds like you just want to be offended. And if you don't like your BIL why would you want to go anyway?

[Anonymous]

It would be weird for me to receive a separate invite from BIL. We are one family, thus one invite to one email.

[Anonymous]

One invite per family. One e-mail. You guys are totally overreacting.

[Anonymous]

I also usually send evites to just one email address per family.

[Anonymous]

You and your husband don't sound very smart or mature. Do everyone a favor and stay home.

[Anonymous]

You are looking for trouble. There will be a place on the invite to indicate how many are coming. And he will say two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a strained but cordial relationship with Dhs brother and his family. I dont think they like me particularly and we are not close but do meet at family get togethers and send xmas presents. BIl is turning 40 and they sent out an evite for a party but only to DHs email and not mine. DH is pretty angry and we both feel this was a deliberate snub. DH has not replied to the invite. What would you do. Continue to ignore?

Going out on a limb here and assume the strained part of the relationship is you all and the cordial polite part is them.

[Anonymous]

Yes, OP, it was intentional slight to make sure you do not attend. Take it as a direct move to be disrespectful to you. You should fire off an email letting everyone know how upset you are. Be sure to copy the entire family on the email. Plan to crash the party, preferably drunk, so you can tell off everyone again in person

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