My husband doesn’t buy me nice things

[Anonymous]

My husband is fantastic and I know he loves me dearly. He is so helpful around the house and an overall A+ human.

One thing that stings is when I see the thoughtful gifts my friends husbands/boyfriends get them.


My husband buys gifts last minute and they’re usually along the lines of books, birthday vacations or perfume.

These are all great and appreciated but I sometimes want something I could show off to my friends.

Nice jewelry from Tiffanys or some such.

I’ve even asked him for it but he says those are too expensive and he can’t.

Gets me bummed out

[Anonymous]

You want him to gift you things he can't afford, just so you can show off to your friends?

[Anonymous]

You sound really immature. You’ve got a great guy, and you’re complaining about material things. A thousand bucks says that your friends’ boyfriends and husbands are either not helpful or selfish or cheating. But damn, they give some great Tiffany jewelry!

Appreciate what you have. Cherish him. And if you want a nice piece of jewelry, go buy it for yourself. Life is too short to go around with your attitude.

[Anonymous]

I’d rather a thoughtful husband from the daily help standpoint, than one who needs to make it up with gifts I can post on Facebook.

I’m not in competition with my friends. I just want a happy life.

[Anonymous]

Wait, is OP the relationship troll posted about in Website Feedback?

[Anonymous]

My DW is not great at gift-giving -- always gets things that are not really useful to me... but who cares! She's great in every other way.

[Anonymous]

I don’t really get this. If you’re married isn’t it your money going toward these expensive gifts you want too? Why don’t you just buy them yourself?

[Anonymous]

OP, my guess is this is you as well. Are you that bored?
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/715769.page

[Anonymous]

I understand thoughtful as it used to frustrate me too when my husband puts little to no thought into gift buying. My husband has been known to run out and return 15 minutes later with a gift from Walgreens or the supermarket. Thanks for the vitamins and Whitman’s chocolate, honey...perfect combo. Now, I send him suggestions from time to time and he puts them in a folder. It’s not the most romantic, but we both end up happy.

Saying that though I’m less with you when it comes to wanting something to show off to my friends. Have you read the 5 love languages, OP? If gift giving is your love language, figure out ways to communicate what you would like as a gift from your husband, but don’t do it just to impress your friends.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Set up a system called " no gifts." It is too much pressure for him and he will always get the wrong thing and then it becomes a problem.
Flowers for the anniversary
Some candy for Christmas
Flowers for you BD.

This game will end.

[Anonymous]

Marriage sounds awesome, where do I sign up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll.

Of course. Where is OP? Mysteriously gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d rather a thoughtful husband from the daily help standpoint, than one who needs to make it up with gifts I can post on Facebook.

I’m not in competition with my friends. I just want a happy life.

+1

Nailed it.

Be careful what you ask for, OP.

[Anonymous]

I'd much rather have a book than some jewelry. (I prefer to go to the Salvation Army and buy dozens of books for about 10 bucks). Get over yourself, OP. I feel sorry for your husband.