Growing increasingly impatient with adhd kid

[Anonymous]

6, no official diagnosis, but pretty darn sure. Please point me in direction of something to make not lose my mind and blame him for things he can’t control.

[Anonymous]

Get him a diagnosis and begin treatment.

Educate yourself and learn how to parent a child with ADHD, who can't respond the same way as a typical child can.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to pursue drugs, so I want to wait til he’s older for diagnosis. I had hoped that folks might have some good resources.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of sleep, good diet heavy on protein, especially in the morning. As much intense exercise as possible.

[Anonymous]

Early intervention brings better long term outcomes, OP. If you're impatient with a six year old, imagine how you'll feel when he's older and still undiagnosed or medicated. Dude, get out of your own way and help this child. The difference in your quality of life can be tremendous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to pursue drugs, so I want to wait til he’s older for diagnosis. I had hoped that folks might have some good resources.

That's we did and by the time DD was 9, the whole family was falling apart because she was unmanageable and made it unbearable for all of us, then the school refusal started, then the poor behavior turned into aggressive behavior. It was a nightmare. When we were ready for an evaluation and treatment, it took us months to find a good psychiatrist. Now things have settled and she's on treatment. Made a huge difference. In our case, we waited until it was a crisis. I wouldn't do that again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to pursue drugs, so I want to wait til he’s older for diagnosis. I had hoped that folks might have some good resources.

That's we did and by the time DD was 9, the whole family was falling apart because she was unmanageable and made it unbearable for all of us, then the school refusal started, then the poor behavior turned into aggressive behavior. It was a nightmare. When we were ready for an evaluation and treatment, it took us months to find a good psychiatrist. Now things have settled and she's on treatment. Made a huge difference. In our case, we waited until it was a crisis. I wouldn't do that again.

This is our situation as well. If you can find a good resource for CBT, I highly recommend. Also - some "typical" parenting advice is the exact opposite of what you need to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to pursue drugs, so I want to wait til he’s older for diagnosis. I had hoped that folks might have some good resources.

That's we did and by the time DD was 9, the whole family was falling apart because she was unmanageable and made it unbearable for all of us, then the school refusal started, then the poor behavior turned into aggressive behavior. It was a nightmare. When we were ready for an evaluation and treatment, it took us months to find a good psychiatrist. Now things have settled and she's on treatment. Made a huge difference. In our case, we waited until it was a crisis. I wouldn't do that again.

This is our situation as well. If you can find a good resource for CBT, I highly recommend. Also - some "typical" parenting advice is the exact opposite of what you need to do.

Thank you to these two posters. Re cbt resources do you mean therapist or book?

[Anonymous]

Get your kid diagnosed, you don't have to medicate. It also may not be adhd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get your kid diagnosed, you don't have to medicate. It also may not be adhd.

Yes! I agree completely!

[Anonymous]

I recommend Dr. Shapiro's parenting classes: https://www.parentchildjourney.com

You'll get techniques that work for more challenging children, whatever the diagnosis (or lack of diagnosis). But I agree with the others -- getting an evaluation and a better understanding of his strengths/challenges/causes of behavior does not require you to medicate or choose any other particular treatment.

[Anonymous]

My DD is 9 and just diagnosed. I would like to try medication or at least pursue that in addition to other Cbt therapies but my husband is against medicine. Not sure how I can get him to come around and be open to it. We started the whole testing process earlier this year because she was struggling in school and it feels so good to finally have a diagnosis and her on the right track to getting her what she needs. Does it affect school work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to pursue drugs, so I want to wait til he’s older for diagnosis. I had hoped that folks might have some good resources.

If your against drugs, then I have nothing for you. I guess you could just wait for him to fail and alienate himself on his own but I have found that medication worked great for my kid at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want to pursue drugs, so I want to wait til he’s older for diagnosis. I had hoped that folks might have some good resources.

If your against drugs, then I have nothing for you. I guess you could just wait for him to fail and alienate himself on his own but I have found that medication worked great for my kid at this age.

+1. The longer you wait, the harder they fall.

[Anonymous]

^this