Date this guy or red flag

[Anonymous]

Lives with his parents because he is divorced and he "just hasn't moved yet, but will eventually." He is divorced because his wife was "crazy"- said his mother and sister hated her. He admits they did, but she should have been able to deal. He is angry because a lot of their friends no longer speak to him. And.....hate to throw this in...he's super overweight.

[Anonymous]

Run

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lives with his parents because he is divorced and he "just hasn't moved yet, but will eventually." He is divorced because his wife was "crazy"- said his mother and sister hated her. He admits they did, but she should have been able to deal. He is angry because a lot of their friends no longer speak to him. And.....hate to throw this in...he's super overweight.

Forgot to mention: He's in his late 30s. Not really sure exactly, as he won't say.

[Anonymous]

Run. Not because of the living arrangement or the overweight but a guy who trashes his ex BEFORE you ever even go out with him is ugly.

[Anonymous]

Old and living in mom's house AND fat AND has an overbearing mother and sister!? What exactly do you see in him -- pls tell me he's at least rich?

[Anonymous]

Like 500 flashing red flags.

Why WOULD you date an overweight guy who won't say what his age is but WILL tell you he lives with his parents and is divorced from a woman he badmouths and didn't defend from relatives?

[Anonymous]

Well, I am overweight. He seemed nice at work. But, yeah ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like 500 flashing red flags.

Why WOULD you date an overweight guy who won't say what his age is but WILL tell you he lives with his parents and is divorced from a woman he badmouths and didn't defend from relatives?

Since when badmouthing an ex is a redflag?
If he was only saying nice things about here, people would say redflag because he has not moved on.
I'd say give it a try. What do you have to loose?

[Anonymous]

You work with him too? Oh God no way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like 500 flashing red flags.

Why WOULD you date an overweight guy who won't say what his age is but WILL tell you he lives with his parents and is divorced from a woman he badmouths and didn't defend from relatives?

Since when badmouthing an ex is a redflag?
If he was only saying nice things about here, people would say redflag because he has not moved on.
I'd say give it a try. What do you have to loose?

You seem to have dismissed the part about living with parents, being angry and refusing to share actual age.
What’s to lose?
Time. And by not going out, she won’t have to have any awkward interactions at work after the bad date.

[Anonymous]

If you met him at work and he's trashing his ex, imagine what happens if you date him and it doesn't work out...he'll trash you at work. Run away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like 500 flashing red flags.

Why WOULD you date an overweight guy who won't say what his age is but WILL tell you he lives with his parents and is divorced from a woman he badmouths and didn't defend from relatives?

Since when badmouthing an ex is a redflag?
If he was only saying nice things about here, people would say redflag because he has not moved on.
I'd say give it a try. What do you have to loose?

I think badmouthing an ex is a redflag because it shows that the individual isn't taking responsibility for his part of the relationship, and he is speaking negatively about people behind their backs. They don't have a chance to defend themselves. So, yup, redflag.

[Anonymous]

What about this man is at all appealing? He is a walking red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I am overweight. He seemed nice at work. But, yeah ..

Please do whatever you need to do to get your self esteem up. Someone seeming nice is not in and of itself a good enough reason to date them, especially with the many negatives this guy has going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Old and living in mom's house AND fat AND has an overbearing mother and sister!? What exactly do you see in him -- pls tell me he's at least rich?

LOL!!