My parents wants to be paid for everything they do for us!

[Anonymous]

My DH broke the lawnmower. My parents were driving to my town one weekend, so I also asked my father if he could check the mower. I am a SAHM. I gave him $60 dollars to fix it.

My parents drove today to bring the mower back and asked to cover their gas and handed me a $45 receipt. I refused to give them anything. I thought they were helping me since I’m their daughter.

My in-laws do things for my family and never charge us. Heck, my MIL is even putting me through school right now!

Do I have the right to hate my parents’ for this? When I was employed, wrote $1000 for for father’s dental work. I reminded them of that. I hate that they are nickel and diming me for gas money and $45 spare parts!

Thanks for letting me vent.

[Anonymous]

If you paid for dad's dental work it sounds like they don't have much money. Sounds like they are happy to be able to help you but can't really afford to foot the bill. Maybe you should negotiate such stuff up front when you ask them for help?

Once you are an adult your parents no longer have to pay for everything, that's how it works!

[Anonymous]

How much would you have paid the lawn mower repair people to bring back your mower?

[Anonymous]

Hate them? That’s way over the top. If you don’t want to compensate them, and you know they will expect it, don’t ask them for favors.

If it was a quick fix that required just a little time, I’d think charging you was kinda weird, but it requires parts. Why is it their job to pay for your stuff? That’s mighty entitled of you—especially if they don’t have money to spare.

[Anonymous]

LOL. This can't be real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hate them? That’s way over the top. If you don’t want to compensate them, and you know they will expect it, don’t ask them for favors.

If it was a quick fix that required just a little time, I’d think charging you was kinda weird, but it requires parts. Why is it their job to pay for your stuff? That’s mighty entitled of you—especially if they don’t have money to spare.

She gave them money for the parts.

Her parents are charging her for the cost of filling up their gas tank when they drive to OPs house. That seems a little much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate them? That’s way over the top. If you don’t want to compensate them, and you know they will expect it, don’t ask them for favors.

If it was a quick fix that required just a little time, I’d think charging you was kinda weird, but it requires parts. Why is it their job to pay for your stuff? That’s mighty entitled of you—especially if they don’t have money to spare.

She gave them money for the parts.

Her parents are charging her for the cost of filling up their gas tank when they drive to OPs house. That seems a little much.

Yea, I can drive from NoVA to NY on $45 worth of gas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you paid for dad's dental work it sounds like they don't have much money. Sounds like they are happy to be able to help you but can't really afford to foot the bill. Maybe you should negotiate such stuff up front when you ask them for help?

Once you are an adult your parents no longer have to pay for everything, that's how it works!

+1 When you don't have much money, gas can be expensive.

[Anonymous]

Maybe stop asking them for stuff then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe stop asking them for stuff then?

+1.

Find someone else to do whatever needs doing.

[Anonymous]

Wow, that's crazy. I would be deeply resentful of my parents if they did this. If they are really stretched for money, then they need to articulate it like grown-ups.

My husband and his siblings happily support his mother, who is a lovely person and my parents felt obliged to support my maternal grandmother out of duty, even though she was hateful and actually sued them for money.

Your parents aren't very pleasant folk. I would remind then that this is impacts not only how you feel about them, but also any help they will need later on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. This can't be real.

+1

[Anonymous]

your parents are ridiculous. and why is their gas bill $45?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hate them? That’s way over the top. If you don’t want to compensate them, and you know they will expect it, don’t ask them for favors.

If it was a quick fix that required just a little time, I’d think charging you was kinda weird, but it requires parts. Why is it their job to pay for your stuff? That’s mighty entitled of you—especially if they don’t have money to spare.

She gave them money for the parts.

Her parents are charging her for the cost of filling up their gas tank when they drive to OPs house. That seems a little much.

Yea, I can drive from NoVA to NY on $45 worth of gas.

+1

[Anonymous]

If you only paid $105 ($60 for supplies plus $45 for gas) then you would have gotten a deal. As it is, because you wouldn't reimburse the gas money, you basically achieved highway robbery. It sounds like your parents made 2 round trips to your house, once to get the lawn mower and once to bring it back. If your parents don't have much money then it is highly probable that $45 in gas is needed and you should be ashamed of yourself for not giving it to them.

I have to tell you that your tone in your post grates on me and, in my opinion, it makes you sound entitled and bratty. I think that in the future you should not burden your parents with your home repair and mechanical problems.