My parents wants to be paid for everything they do for us!

[Anonymous]

Not clear they were driving by so they merely picked up the fixed lawn mower and then asked for you to pay gas for their whole entire drive?

What happens when they stay w you a few days, they don’t pay for anything or take you out?

[Anonymous]

Your parents are very tacky, and cheap!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH broke the lawnmower. My parents were driving to my town one weekend, so I also asked my father if he could check the mower. I am a SAHM. I gave him $60 dollars to fix it.

My parents drove today to bring the mower back and asked to cover their gas and handed me a $45 receipt. I refused to give them anything. I thought they were helping me since I’m their daughter.

My in-laws do things for my family and never charge us. Heck, my MIL is even putting me through school right now!

Do I have the right to hate my parents’ for this? When I was employed, wrote $1000 for for father’s dental work. I reminded them of that. I hate that they are nickel and diming me for gas money and $45 spare parts!

Thanks for letting me vent.

Let your in laws fix your lawn mower.

MIL actually offered her repairman but I thought my side of the family could actually contribute.

WHAAAATT??? Why should either family have "to contribute"? You and your husband need to untie those apron strings and learn to do for yourselves. I cannot believe that you are not embarrassed and ashamed about the fact that you and your husband require so much financial support. In fact, you sound quite proud of it. Wow. And your disrespect towards your parents is appalling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH broke the lawnmower. My parents were driving to my town one weekend, so I also asked my father if he could check the mower. I am a SAHM. I gave him $60 dollars to fix it.

My parents drove today to bring the mower back and asked to cover their gas and handed me a $45 receipt. I refused to give them anything. I thought they were helping me since I’m their daughter.

My in-laws do things for my family and never charge us. Heck, my MIL is even putting me through school right now!

Do I have the right to hate my parents’ for this? When I was employed, wrote $1000 for for father’s dental work. I reminded them of that. I hate that they are nickel and diming me for gas money and $45 spare parts!

Thanks for letting me vent.

Let your in laws fix your lawn mower.

MIL actually offered her repairman but I thought my side of the family could actually contribute.

WHAAAATT??? Why should either family have "to contribute"? You and your husband need to untie those apron strings and learn to do for yourselves. I cannot believe that you are not embarrassed and ashamed about the fact that you and your husband require so much financial support. In fact, you sound quite proud of it. Wow. And your disrespect towards your parents is appalling.

+1. Totally untie from your folks. They charge for everything they do for you, charge them too when it’s time they need your help too. God help them that they have good retirement money so they won’t need you at all.

[Anonymous]

Your tone is definitely not right here. Based on the original problem, seems like your choice is to pay dad or a professional. If paying dad rubs you the wrong way, pay a professional. I can't imagine paying my dad for labor, though I would cover costs. But every family is different. If it makes you uncomfortable don't ask for his help.

You do seem to act like dad owes you something. He doesnt. If he requests payment then You can choose to not use his services. He just isn't the kind to fix it for free. It sucks and it's awkward, but that's the arrangement.

[Anonymous]

OP, you really do need to start paying your own way. I imagine your parents had a conversation over this and decided it was about time they stopped enabling you. Now your MIL can do it until she gets tired of it too.

[Anonymous]

So shocked by your tone OP! I also feel like your parents must be totally over your behavior toward them and are trying to send you a message. Yes parents do things out of love but it is completely wrong of you to expect it! Also after a certain age the roles have to flip and you have to start helping them out with things physically and financially! You for sure cannot demand that they do something for you!!

[Anonymous]

Is it possible you have overly relied on your parents financially in the past, and they are adjusting their behavior towards you to finally cut the cord and get you to stop taking advantage of them?

[Anonymous]

I know a family like that. They don't feed the MIL when she comes to visit for a weekend from out of town. She needs to bring her own sandwich supplies, or buy take out food locally.
Perfectly normal, responsible young couple otherwise. No sure whose fault, but it's just way, way weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you paid for dad's dental work it sounds like they don't have much money. Sounds like they are happy to be able to help you but can't really afford to foot the bill. Maybe you should negotiate such stuff up front when you ask them for help?

Once you are an adult your parents no longer have to pay for everything, that's how it works!

This isn't paying for a meal. This is helping out a family member. This is different. I'd pay the stupid mileage but make clear that I would not be seeking their help again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a family like that. They don't feed the MIL when she comes to visit for a weekend from out of town. She needs to bring her own sandwich supplies, or buy take out food locally.
Perfectly normal, responsible young couple otherwise. No sure whose fault, but it's just way, way weird.

Find out and start your own thread please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe stop asking them for stuff then?

+1.

Find someone else to do whatever needs doing.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I was just telling my DH about this and he was nice enough to say not to worry about it and I can reimburse them. I feel ashamed about my parents.

DH’s parents would not have done this. MIL pays for our cleaning lady, pays for my tuition... we never asked her but she treats me like her own.

You should not feel ashamed. You also have a nice husband for being cool about it. If your parents need the money and you can swing it, why don't you consider giving your parents a monthly stipend that is not tied to any tasks and tell them that rather than reimbursing them for individual things, you would like to give them some regular spending money? Like you are taking care of each other where there is need. You need assistance here and there. They need financial help.

It is really nice that they made two trips to get your lawn mower fixed. Imagine the time and effort if you had to do it or go buy a new mower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So shocked by your tone OP! I also feel like your parents must be totally over your behavior toward them and are trying to send you a message. Yes parents do things out of love but it is completely wrong of you to expect it! Also after a certain age the roles have to flip and you have to start helping them out with things physically and financially! You for sure cannot demand that they do something for you!!

This.

[Anonymous]

I feel like this OP is unfortunately not alone in her entitled thinking.
Why does everyone have to provide for you?