I hate my fantastic husband

[Anonymous]

So, everyone loves my husband -- he cooks, cleans, helps out with the kids, has a stable job, doesn't drink or cheat. He always says that I look fine even though I gained weight.

But after 10 years, I realized that I don't like him.

He constantly makes side comments of how he could do better than me, how he does more than me (I also cook/clean/kids and work), and makes me look bad in front of other people. I wear glasses so I'm "blind" or I went back to work so now he is "doing both the house and the job". It works, too. He has had multiple friends say that he should leave me, and he loves flaunting that to me, and then boasting that he's being loyal and would never leave. But I want him to leave!

I don't know how to explain it but it's almost like I'm here just to make him look good and blame me. I feel so small and unworthy (which lead to a lot of the weight gain)

[Anonymous]

Step your game up. He's right

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, everyone loves my husband -- he cooks, cleans, helps out with the kids, has a stable job, doesn't drink or cheat. He always says that I look fine even though I gained weight.

But after 10 years, I realized that I don't like him.

He constantly makes side comments of how he could do better than me, how he does more than me (I also cook/clean/kids and work), and makes me look bad in front of other people. I wear glasses so I'm "blind" or I went back to work so now he is "doing both the house and the job". It works, too. He has had multiple friends say that he should leave me, and he loves flaunting that to me, and then boasting that he's being loyal and would never leave. But I want him to leave!

I don't know how to explain it but it's almost like I'm here just to make him look good and blame me. I feel so small and unworthy (which lead to a lot of the weight gain)

That doesn't sound fantastic at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, everyone loves my husband -- he cooks, cleans, helps out with the kids, has a stable job, doesn't drink or cheat. He always says that I look fine even though I gained weight.

But after 10 years, I realized that I don't like him.

He constantly makes side comments of how he could do better than me, how he does more than me (I also cook/clean/kids and work), and makes me look bad in front of other people. I wear glasses so I'm "blind" or I went back to work so now he is "doing both the house and the job". It works, too. He has had multiple friends say that he should leave me, and he loves flaunting that to me, and then boasting that he's being loyal and would never leave. But I want him to leave!

I don't know how to explain it but it's almost like I'm here just to make him look good and blame me. I feel so small and unworthy (which lead to a lot of the weight gain)

It's probably the weight gain that has him acting like this. Were you fit and in shape when you got married?

[Anonymous]

Leave him. He's emotionally abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, everyone loves my husband -- he cooks, cleans, helps out with the kids, has a stable job, doesn't drink or cheat. He always says that I look fine even though I gained weight.

But after 10 years, I realized that I don't like him.

He constantly makes side comments of how he could do better than me, how he does more than me (I also cook/clean/kids and work), and makes me look bad in front of other people. I wear glasses so I'm "blind" or I went back to work so now he is "doing both the house and the job". It works, too. He has had multiple friends say that he should leave me, and he loves flaunting that to me, and then boasting that he's being loyal and would never leave. But I want him to leave!

I don't know how to explain it but it's almost like I'm here just to make him look good and blame me. I feel so small and unworthy (which lead to a lot of the weight gain)

That doesn't sound fantastic at all.

lol. Op is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds like a douche. Not one thing you describe sounds "fantastic".

[Anonymous]

Have you tried counseling?

He treats you with contempt, which is a real way to ruin a marriage. Your spouse should never make you feel small, they should make you feel needed and appreciated. Have you talked with him about this?

[Anonymous]

Consider losing weight for your own self esteem and losing him as a happy bonus

[Anonymous]

Multiple friends have said he should leave you?

Excuse me? Nobody says that unless they are either complete jerks or unless they believe you are dangerous or crazy.

Your husband is cruel and abusive. Don't believe anything he tells you.

[Anonymous]

Haven't you learned OP? Don't you know that any man who helps in any way to raise the kids you both decided to have is Superman? He could not do better than you or he would. And he is definitely cheating on some level. Wake up.

[Anonymous]

OP, it doesn't sound like you like yourself very much. He's just following your lead.

[Anonymous]

Why are you wishing him to leave? If I were in your shoes, I'd leave HIM. No way would divorce be worse than living with that.

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t sound fantastic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, everyone loves my husband -- he cooks, cleans, helps out with the kids, has a stable job, doesn't drink or cheat. He always says that I look fine even though I gained weight.

But after 10 years, I realized that I don't like him.

He constantly makes side comments of how he could do better than me, how he does more than me (I also cook/clean/kids and work), and makes me look bad in front of other people. I wear glasses so I'm "blind" or I went back to work so now he is "doing both the house and the job". It works, too. He has had multiple friends say that he should leave me, and he loves flaunting that to me, and then boasting that he's being loyal and would never leave. But I want him to leave!

I don't know how to explain it but it's almost like I'm here just to make him look good and blame me. I feel so small and unworthy (which lead to a lot of the weight gain)

So you have everything in a man a woman could want, it yet it’s not enough. You want more.

Typical American female. Just divorce him already, ride the cock carousel a few years and let him live without having such awful feelings for the best thing to ever happen to you.