If We divorce would I typically get half of our savings/investments?

[Anonymous]

I’m a SAHM with a high HHI. Some of our savings is tied into long term incentive plans at work

[Anonymous]

Maryland per above

[Anonymous]

Yes, consult an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Yes. If some of that savings is hard to access, the judge can give you an equal value distribution from other assets. Let’s say $25,000 is tied up in the work issue. The judge can order that you get an additional $25,000 from other savings or the sale of assets like the house. And let your spouse keep what’s at work.

[Anonymous]

Minus the debts, sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Minus the debts, sure.

Debt free

[Anonymous]

Yes, but remember, if you keep the house, that will be counted as part of your share. And then you'll be responsible for all the taxes and upkeep going forward. Don't keep the house unless you're 100% sure you can afford it.

[Anonymous]

Expect to split all marital assets and debts 50/50. Sounds like he has high income and you have zero income. Expect to split custody of your kids and you will get child support and probably some rehabilitative alimony while you re enter the workforce. Expect to soon get a full time job. Your alimony will only be short term, you will need to earn a living and support your self and 50% of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Expect to split all marital assets and debts 50/50. Sounds like he has high income and you have zero income. Expect to split custody of your kids and you will get child support and probably some rehabilitative alimony while you re enter the workforce. Expect to soon get a full time job. Your alimony will only be short term, you will need to earn a living and support your self and 50% of kids.

We pushed our relationships to the brink lately so I found out my options. As primary caregiver for their entire lives, I would get primary custody. How much time I gave would be up to me, within reason. I'd get 50% of our assets, maintenance for 6 years and a large chunk of money. Instead of me paying for all of college I would only have to pay half. My assets were all protected coming into marriage, his were not. Thankfully counseling is working, it seems, but good luck OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, if/when you divorce, BEFORE you sign anything take the proposed settlement offer to a financial advisor. I took a course at work recently where someone said that they often see women who are divorced, but only post settlement, and that it would be better if they could see them pre-settlement to advise them about how much a 401k dollar is worth compared a dollar in the home. They are different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if/when you divorce, BEFORE you sign anything take the proposed settlement offer to a financial advisor. I took a course at work recently where someone said that they often see women who are divorced, but only post settlement, and that it would be better if they could see them pre-settlement to advise them about how much a 401k dollar is worth compared a dollar in the home. They are different.

Not OP but great advice, thanks for this suggestion. If there is someone you would recommend in NoVa I have listening ears.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Expect to split all marital assets and debts 50/50. Sounds like he has high income and you have zero income. Expect to split custody of your kids and you will get child support and probably some rehabilitative alimony while you re enter the workforce. Expect to soon get a full time job. Your alimony will only be short term, you will need to earn a living and support your self and 50% of kids.

We pushed our relationships to the brink lately so I found out my options. As primary caregiver for their entire lives, I would get primary custody. How much time I gave would be up to me, within reason. I'd get 50% of our assets, maintenance for 6 years and a large chunk of money. Instead of me paying for all of college I would only have to pay half. My assets were all protected coming into marriage, his were not. Thankfully counseling is working, it seems, but good luck OP.

Your claim of “primary caregiver” is nonsense. Unless your spose does not want 50% custody or is an unfit parent, courts would not give primary custody to one parent. What makes you so unemployable that you need 6 years of maintenance before support yourself?

[Anonymous]

Why do you think you should you only get half?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Expect to split all marital assets and debts 50/50. Sounds like he has high income and you have zero income. Expect to split custody of your kids and you will get child support and probably some rehabilitative alimony while you re enter the workforce. Expect to soon get a full time job. Your alimony will only be short term, you will need to earn a living and support your self and 50% of kids.

We pushed our relationships to the brink lately so I found out my options. As primary caregiver for their entire lives, I would get primary custody. How much time I gave would be up to me, within reason. I'd get 50% of our assets, maintenance for 6 years and a large chunk of money. Instead of me paying for all of college I would only have to pay half. My assets were all protected coming into marriage, his were not. Thankfully counseling is working, it seems, but good luck OP.

Your claim of “primary caregiver” is nonsense. Unless your spose does not want 50% custody or is an unfit parent, courts would not give primary custody to one parent. What makes you so unemployable that you need 6 years of maintenance before support yourself?

I’m sorry- do you have anything to add for OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think you should you only get half?

Why /how would she be entitled to more?

OP please take the advice of a financial planner before signing anything.